Celestial Marriage | Bruce R. McConkie

I stand before you tonight in the spirit of
this musical number, “I Need Thee Every Hour,” and hope and pray and desire that
I may be given utterance by the power of the Spirit so that I may say those things that
will please the Lord, that will be the things he would say if he personally were addressing
this great congregation at this hour. When I consulted with Brother Lorin Wheelwright,
he told me that it would be most appropriate if I spoke on a Thanksgiving theme, since
it would fit in well with the music. I decided to do that, and prepared my mind
and an outline, and gathered some quotations, but since arriving here tonight I have had
nothing but a stupor of thought, nothing but uncertainty in my mind as to that subject. Rather, I think, if I may be guided by the
power of the Spirit and say what will please the Lord, I shall talk to you—somewhat informally,
perhaps—about the obligation that rests upon Latter-day Saints to create for themselves
eternal family units patterned after the family of God, our Heavenly Father. So that we may all be united in our thinking
and be in a position to build on the same foundation, having in mind the same eternal
truths, I shall initially read three or four brief passages from the revelations. I hope and pray that I may be given utterance
by the Spirit and that your hearts may be opened by the power of the same Spirit so
that we will be mutually edified. I pray that we will be one in feeling and
in attitude, where these great doctrinal principles are concerned, and will have riveted in our
souls the determination to do all the things that must be done in this mortal probation
to inherit the fulness of the glory of our Father’s kingdom. I take for one text these words from Section
42, the revelation entitled “The Law of the Church”: “Thou shalt love thy wife
with all thy heart, and shalt cleave unto her and none else”. And in the spirit of those words, I take from
the Old Testament book of Ruth these expressions which though not originally uttered with reference
to marriage, contain a principle that is wholly applicable. And Ruth said, Intreat me not to leave thee,
or to return from following after thee: for whither thou goest, I will go; and where thou
lodgest, I will lodge: thy people shall be my people, and thy God my God: Where thou diest, will I die, and there will
I be buried: the Lord do so to me, and more also [and now I will change it slightly] if
[even] death part thee and me. Now a passage from Section 49 in the Doctrine
and Covenants summarizing the basic administrative announcement relative to marriage for our
dispensation: Verily I say unto you, [saith the Lord,] that
whoso forbiddeth to marry is not ordained of God, for marriage is ordained of God unto
man. Wherefore, it is lawful that he should have
one wife, and they twain shall be one flesh, and all this that the earth might answer the
end of its creation; And that it might be filled with the measure
of man, according to his creation before the world was made. When we as Latter-day Saints talk about marriage
we are talking about a holy celestial order. We are talking about a system out of which
can grow the greatest love, joy, peace, happiness, and serenity known to humankind. We are talking about creating a family unit
that has the potential of being everlasting and eternal, a family unit where a man and
a wife can go on in that relationship to all eternity, and where mother and daughter and
father and son are bound by eternal ties that will never be severed. We are talking about creating a unit more
important than the Church, more important than any organization that exists on earth
or in heaven, a unit out of which exaltation and eternal life grow; and when we talk about
eternal life, we are talking about the kind of life that God our Heavenly Father lives. In this final glorious dispensation we have
received the most basic truth of all eternity, and that truth concerns the nature and kind
of being that God is. It is eternal life to know the Father and
the Son. There is no possible way to go degree by degree,
step by step to the high exaltation we seek unless and until we come to a knowledge of
the nature and kind of being that God is. Thus, when we talk about eternal life we are
talking about the kind of life that God our Father lives; and when we speak of him we
are speaking of a holy, perfected, exalted, ennobled man—an individual, a personage,
a being with “a body of flesh and bones as tangible as man’s”. We are talking about someone who is a literal
parent, who is the Father of the spirits of all men. You and I were born as members of his family. We have seen his face; we have heard his voice;
we have received his counsel, personally as well as through representatives and agents;
we knew him in the preexistence. Now a curtain has been dropped and we do not
have the remembrance that we had then, but we are seeking to do the things that will
enable us to be like him. After he had begotten us as his spirit children,
he gave us our agency, which is the power and ability to choose; he also gave us laws
and allowed us to obey or disobey, in consequence of which we can and did develop talents, abilities,
aptitudes, and characteristics of diverse sorts. He ordained and established a plan of salvation. It was named the gospel of God, meaning God
our Heavenly Father, and it consisted of all of the laws, powers, and rights, all of the
experiences, all of the gifts and graces needed to take us, his spirit sons and daughters,
from our then-spirit state of low intelligence to the high, exalted state where we would
be like him. The Prophet Joseph Smith tells us that God
himself, finding that he was in the midst of spirits and glory, ordained laws whereby
they might advance and progress and become like him. Those laws included the creation of this earth;
they included the receipt of a mortal body where we could be tried and tested in a probationary
state and receive experiences impossible to gain in any other way; they included the opportunity
to choose between right and wrong, to do good or to do evil, the opportunity to grow and
advance in the things of the spirit; and they included the opportunity to enter into a marriage
relationship that has the potential of being eternal. We started out on this course in the premortal
life. Now we are down here taking the final examination
for all the life that we lived back then, which also is the entrance examination for
the realms and kingdoms that are ahead. The name of the kind of life that God our
Father lives is eternal life, and eternal life consists of two things: the continuation
of the family unit in eternity; and an inheritance of what the scriptures denominate the fulness
of the father or the fulness of the glory of the Father, meaning the might, power, dominion,
and exaltation that he himself possesses. In our finite circumstances we have no ability
or power to comprehend the might and omnipotence of the Father. We can look at the stars in the heavens, we
can view the Milky Way, we can see all the worlds and orbs that have been created in
their spheres, we can examine all the life on this planet with which we are familiar,
and by doing this we can begin to get a concept of the glorious, infinite, unlimited intelligence
by which all these things are—and all these things taken together and more comprise the
fulness of the glory of the Father. We are seeking eternal life—that is to say,
we have been offered the privilege to go forward in advancement, as the children of God, until
we become like our eternal Parent; and if we so attain it is required, it is requisite,
it is mandatory for us to build on the foundation of the atoning sacrifice of the Lord Jesus. It is required of us that we keep the commandments
and sow the seeds of righteousness in order to reap the harvest of glory and honor. If we do all the things that the gospel requires
of us we can make that kind of advancement. The gospel, which is the plan of salvation,
is now named the gospel of Jesus Christ to honor him who worked out the infinite and
eternal atoning sacrifice and put into operation all the terms and conditions of the Father’s
plan. God our Father is the Creator of all things,
and we glorify his holy name and sing praises to him because he created us and, in the ultimate
sense, the universe, the earth, and all things on all the orbs in all the sidereal heavens. God our Father is the ultimate and perfect
Creator. Jesus Christ, his Son, is the Redeemer. He came to ransom us from the temporal and
spiritual death brought into the world by the fall of Adam. The ransom from temporal death gives each
of us immortality: “As in Adam all die, even so in Christ shall all be made alive”. And every living soul will rise in the resurrection
with immortality and, having so arisen, will be judged according to his works and will
be assigned a place in the kingdoms which are prepared. Some will be raised in immortality and then
unto eternal life, and eternal life is the name of the kind of life that God lives. We cannot shout praises to the name of the
Lord Jehovah, who is the Lord Jesus, to the extent that we should in order to honor him
properly for all that he has done for us and for the possibilities that lie ahead because
he took upon himself our sins on conditions of repentance. The work of God the Father was creation, and
the work of Christ the Son was redemption. We are men, and our work—building on the
foundation that God our Father laid and that Christ his Son has established—is to do
the part assigned to us in order to inherit the glory and honor and dignity of which I
speak. In general terms, that means that we are to
accept and believe the law. We are to believe in Christ and live his law,
be upright and clean, have our sins washed away in the waters of baptism, become new
creatures by the power of the Holy Ghost, and walk in paths of truth and righteousness all our days. We can talk in general terms about this, it’s a process of overcoming the world. A process of rising above carnality, of doing good and working righteousness. As long as we speak in this vein, all that
we say is said in generalities; it is a foundation for a specific and particular thing toward
which we point: eternal marriage. Everything that we do in the Church is connected
and associated with and tied into the eternal order of matrimony that God has ordained. Everything that we do from the time that we
become accountable through all our experiences, and all the counsel and direction we receive
up to the time of marriage, is designed and intended to prepare us to enter
into the order of matrimony; which may be eternal. I say may because we enter into a probationary arrangement and it does in fact become eternal if we
abide in the covenant made in connection with that order of matrimony. Then everything that we do for the remainder
of our lives, whatsoever it may be, ties back into the celestial order of matrimony into
which we have entered, and is designed and intended to encourage us to keep the covenant
made in holy places. That is the general concept, briefly stated,
under which we are operating. Let me now read from the revelation on marriage the general concept, yes, but given in a little more particularity, that governs in this field. I read from the Doctrine and Covenants, section
132, verse 5: “All who will have a blessing at my hands shall abide the law which was
appointed for that blessing, and the conditions thereof, as were instituted from before the
foundation of the world.” That is the basic, governing, overriding principle
that rules all of the acts of men in all ages. No one ever gets anything for nothing. We have received as a free gift the fact of
resurrection, but in a sense even that is not free in that we lived meritoriously and
uprightly in the pre-existence and earned the right to undergo this mortal probation
and the resurrection that follows it. In the broadest and most eternal perspective
that there is, no one ever gets anything for nothing; and so we live the law and we get
the blessing. And having said that, then the Lord says:
“As pertaining to the new and everlasting covenant, it was instituted for the fulness
of my glory, and he that receiveth a fulness thereof must and shall abide the law, or he
shall be damned, saith the Lord God”. “The new and everlasting covenant” is
the fulness of the gospel, and the gospel is the covenant of salvation that the Lord
makes with men. It is new because it has been revealed anew
in our day; it is everlasting because it has always been had by faithful people, not only
on this earth but on all the earths inhabited by the children of our Father. This next verse, number seven, is a one-sentence
summary of the whole law of the whole gospel. Of necessity, it is written in legal language
because it outlines the terms and conditions that are involved; and of course it is the
Lord speaking: And verily I say unto you, that the conditions
of this law are these [this recites the conditions of the law that govern in the whole field
of revealed religion, but we will make specific application of it to our central responsibility,
which is marriage]: All covenants, contracts, bonds, obligations, oaths, vows, performances,
connections, associations, or expectations, that are not made and entered into and sealed
by the Holy Spirit of promise, of him who is anointed, both as well for time and for
all eternity, and that too most holy, by revelation and commandment through the medium of mine
anointed, whom I have appointed on the earth to hold this power (and I have appointed unto
my servant Joseph to hold this power in the last days, and there is never but one on the
earth at a time on whom this power and the keys of this priesthood are conferred), are
of no efficacy, virtue, or force in and after the resurrection from the dead; for all contracts
that are not made unto this end have an end when men are dead. Now, what is involved? We have power, as mortals, to make between
ourselves any arrangements that we choose to make and that are legal in the society
where we live, and they will bind us as long as we agree to be bound, even until death
takes us. But we do not have power, as mortals, to bind
ourselves after death. Neither you nor I can enter a contract to
buy or sell or go to come or paint or perform or do any act in the sphere that is ahead. God has given us our agency here and now as
pertaining to mortality. We are mortal; this is a temporal sphere,
a time-bound sphere. And if we are going to do anything here and
now that bridges the gulf of death, anything that endures in the spirit world, anything
that remains with us in the resurrection, we have to do it by a power that is beyond
the power of man—it has to be the power of God. Man is mortal and his acts are limited to
mortality; God is eternal and his acts have no end. The Lord conferred upon Peter the keys of
the kingdom of God so that he had power to bind on earth and seal everlastingly in the
heavens, and then he spread that out to James and John and then to all of the Twelve anciently
so that they all had the same power, and then in our day he has restored again what was
had anciently. He has called apostles and prophets and given
them the keys of the kingdom of God, and they have power once again to bind on earth and
have it sealed everlastingly in the heavens. He sent Elijah to bring the sealing power;
he sent Elias to confer upon Joseph Smith and Oliver Cowdery the gospel of Abraham and
to give the promise that in them and in their seed all generations after should be blessed. Elijah came and Elias came, acting in the
power and authority of the Almighty, and gave once again their keys, powers, prerogatives,
and rights to mortal men on earth—praise God for this glorious thing! Once again on earth there are people who can
bind on earth and have it sealed everlastingly in the heavens. We have the power to perform a marriage, and
we can do it so that the man and the woman become husband and wife here and now and—if
they keep the covenant there and then made—they will remain husband and wife in the spirit
world and will come up in glory and dominion with kingdoms and exaltation in the resurrection,
being husband and wife and having eternal life. And it operates thus because in this church,
and in this church only, the Lord Almighty has given the sealing power. That is our potential; that is within our
possible realm of achievement. In this one-sentence summary, as I express
it, of the whole law of the gospel, we read three requisites. If, for instance, a person is going to have
a baptism that lasts eternally he must first find the right baptism; second, find a legal
administrator to perform the ordinance for him; and third, have that ordinance sealed
by the power of the Holy Spirit, in which even the baptism will admit the repentant
person to a celestial heaven in the realms ahead. This matter of being sealed by the Holy Spirit
of promise applies to every ordinance and every covenant and all things that there are
in the Church. Do not talk about marriage and the Holy Spirit
of promise unless and until you understand first the concept and the principle and its
universal application. One of our revelations speaks of “the Holy
Spirit of promise, which the Father sheds forth upon all those who are just and true”,
meaning that every person who walks uprightly, does the best that he can, overcomes the world,
rises above carnality, and walks in paths of righteousness will have his acts and his
deeds sealed and approved by the Holy Spirit. He will be, as Paul would have expressed it,
“justified by the Spirit”. Therefore, if a man is going to be married
and wants a marriage that lasts for a week, or three weeks, or three months, or as long
as Hollywood prescribes, or even “until death us do part,” he can be married by
the power of man within the parameters and the limits that are set; he has that prerogative
by the agency that the Lord has given him. But if he wants a wife to be his in the realms
ahead, he had better find someone who has power to bind on earth and seal in heaven. In order to get a proper marriage one must
do this: first, search for and seek out celestial marriage—find the right ordinance; second,
look for a legal administrator, someone who holds the sealing power—and that power is
exercised only in the temples that the Lord has had built by the tithing and sacrifice
of his people in our day; and third, so live in righteousness, uprightness, integrity,
virtue, and morality that he is entitled to have the Holy Spirit of God ratify and seal
and justify and approve, and in that even his marriage is sealed by the Holy Spirit
of promise and is binding in time and in eternity. So we Latter-day Saints struggle and labor
and work to be worthy to get a recommend to go to the temple, for the spirit will not
dwell in an unclean tabernacle. We struggle and labor to get our tabernacles
clean, to be pure and refined and cultured, to have the Spirit as our companion; and when
we get in that state our bishop and our stake president give us a “recommend” to go
to the temple. We go there and make solemn and sober covenants,
and having so done we then labor and struggle and work will all our power to continue in
the light of the Spirit so that the agreement we have made will not be broken. If we do that, we have the assurance of eternal
life. We do not need to tremble and fear; we do
not need to have anxiety or worry if we are laboring and working and struggling to the
best of our abilities. Though we do not become perfect, though we
do not overcome all things, if our hearts are right and we are charting a course to
eternal life in the manner I indicate, our marriages will continue in the realms that
are ahead. We shall get into the paradise of God and
we shall be husband and wife. We shall come up in the resurrection and we
shall be husband and wife. Anyone who comes up in the resurrection in
the marriage state has the absolute guarantee of eternal life, but he will not then be a
possessor and inheritor of all things—there is a great deal of progress and advancement
to be made after the grave and after the resurrection. But he will be in the course where he will
go on in the schooling and preparing processes until eventually he knows all things and becomes
like God our Heavenly Father, meaning that he becomes an inheritor of eternal life. In a manner of speaking we have, here and
now, probationary families even though we have been married in the temple, because our
marriage in the temple is conditional. It is conditioned upon our subsequent compliance
with the laws, the terms, the conditions of the covenant that we then make. And so when I get married in the temple, I
am put in a position where I can strive and labor and learn to love my wife with the perfection
that must exist if I am going to have a fulness of the glory that attends this covenant in
eternity, and it puts her in a position to learn to love me in the same way. It puts both of us in a position to bring
up our children in light and truth and to school and prepare them to be members of an
eternal family unit, and it puts us as children of our parents in a position where we honor
our parents and do what is necessary to have these eternal ties go from one generation
to the next and the next. Eventually there will be a great patriarchal
chain of exalted beings from Adam to the last man, with any links left out being individuals
who are not qualified and worthy to inherit, possess, and receive along the indicated line. I am talking now to people who have opportunity
to live the law. Anyone who has the opportunity is required
to do so; it is mandatory. I am perfectly well aware that there are people
who did not have the opportunity but who would have lived the law had the opportunity been
afforded; and those individuals will be judged in the providence and mercy of a gracious
God according to the intents and desires of their hearts. That is the principle of salvation and exaltation
for the dead. I have talked only in general terms; I have
deliberately not been specific. I have designed to set forth true principles,
as the Prophet indicated in his statement, “I teach them correct principles, and they
govern themselves”. I have desired and designed to set forth the
general concept that is involved with the hope that, having the concept before us, each
of us will then determine for ourselves the courses that we have to pursue as individuals
to obtain the indicated rewards. I think that the noblest concept that can
enter the heart of man is the fact that the family unit continues in eternity. I do not think that one can conceive of a
more glorious concept than that—building, of course, on the foundation of the atoning
sacrifice of the Lord Jesus. Celestial marriage is the thing that opens
the door to eternal life in our Father’s kingdom. If we can pass the probationary experiences
that prevail and exist in the family unit, then the Lord will say to us at some future
day, “Well done, thou good and faithful servant: . . . enter thou into the joy of
thy lord”. The things we are talking about here are true. That is the glory and the wonder and the beauty
of everything connected with this system of revealed religion that we have—it is true. There is no more glorious fact connected with
our whole system of revealed religion than the simple fact that it is true; and because
it is true the doctrines that we teach are true; and because these doctrines are true
they will give us peace and joy and happiness in this life. They will enable us to cast off the drudgery,
sludge, evil, and iniquities of the world; they will empower us to put on Christ and
the glory and beauty of pure religion and to become new creatures of the Holy Ghost. It is a wondrous thing beyond belief to belong
to a system that is true, that is founded on the rock foundation of eternal truth. I hope, as I bear testimony to you of the
truth and divinity of this work, that my words simply echo the thoughts that are in your
hearts. I know just as well as I know anything in
this world that God has spoken in our day, that Jesus is the Lord, that he has worked
out the infinite and eternal atoning sacrifice, that the Lord has set up his kingdom for the
last time among men, that Spencer W. Kimball at this moment is the prophet and revelator
and mouthpiece of the Almighty on earth, and that this Church, weak and struggling and
humble as it is now, is going to advance and grow and progress until the knowledge of God
covers the earth as the waters cover the sea. Our destiny is to fill the earth because we
are founded on the rock foundation of eternal truth. There is nothing in all this world like the
gospel of the Lord Jesus Christ, and I bear witness of it and hope that, as you say amen,
you will thus make my witness your witness and that you will then be under covenant to
do the things that must be done to gain peace and joy in this life and to be an inheritor
of eternal life in the world to come. In the name of the Lord Jesus Christ, amen. Amen.

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  1. A tower of a man. He was controversial, but he sought to say and do what he felt the Lord would have him say. Great witness of God the Father and the Lord Jesus Christ.

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