CRAZY Bachelor Parties in Germany (Junggesellenabschied)


What would you think is going on if you walked
down the street in the middle of the afternoon in Germany, and you saw a guy in a full-body
penis costume? No, it’s not Halloween. It’s actually the German version of a bachelor
party! Hey everyone! I’m Dana and you’re watching
Wanted Adventure Living Abroad. Just like in other cultures, in Germany, people
celebrate leaving the single world behind them with a bang. But unlike in the U.S. where bachelor and
bachelorette parties are pretty much just over the top nights of wild partying, sometimes
with sometimes without strippers, but invariably with lots and lots of alcohol involved, the
German Junggesellenabschied as it’s called, is a little bit different. Especially during those warm summer months,
if you go downtown on the weekend in one of the larger cities of Germany — Munich, Cologne,
Hamburg — there is a pretty good chance that you’ll run into at least one group of men or women
dressed in some sort of crazy costumes having a good, usually pretty intoxicated time out
in the street. And, this I should mention, is often something
that you see during the day. So in Germany, I’ve noticed that the bachelor and bachelorette
parties are often a whole day thing, starting in the morning and then ending super late
at night. Whereas in the U.S., the main party’s usually just at night. Although, you might
also hang out with your friends during the day, too. So maybe for girls you go to the
spa or something like that to chill and get ready for the main thing in the evening. A lot of times I’ve also seen that here
in Germany there are specially made t-shirts for the event and, while I’ve seen the women’s
t-shirts often being something cute, from what I’ve seen of the guy’s shirts, it’s something
like how the groom’s fun life is over, or how they’ve reached the end of freedom,
or something about they’re getting married and that’s why they’re getting wasted.
You know, just your typical over dramatization of the life-ending terror that is marriage. Aaaahhhhh! But like I said, in addition to wearing the
t-shirts, sometimes the bride or the groom is dressed up in some kind of extra embarrassing
crazy costume. And sometimes I’ve seen the other people are dressed up in funny outfits
too…I guess it just depends on the party. I’ve seen a woman in a bumble bee outfit
and, like I said at the beginning, a guy in a penis suit. I’ve also seen women in jailbird costumes
and guys dressed up in tutus wearing makeup and so much glitter that I’m pretty that they
had to bathe for like a week to get that stuff off. You know glitter, that stuff sticks around
forever. I wear one shirt with a little bit of glitter on it on Monday and on Friday I’m
still like, oh look, there’s glitter on my forehead. Sometimes I’ve also seen the bride or the
groom carrying around a basket full of little items like low-quality schnapps bottles, cheap
lacy underwear, bouncy balls, and other such, well basically junk. You give them some money, like 1 or 2 euros,
and then you can pick something out of the basket of basically junk. I’ve heard that the money is supposed to
go towards the wedding, but then I’ve also heard that actually the money is supposed
to go towards paying for the alcohol that night. I’ve also heard that sometimes the bride
or groom is given a list of a bunch of embarrassing things that they have to do. Like maybe they
have to go up to someone in a bar and say some sort of, just, really corny pick up line
to them, or they have to ask someone with lipstick on to kiss their cheek and leave
the lipstick mark. Another big difference is that in the U.S.,
the bride or the groom does not ever pay for the bachelor or the bachelorette party! The
other people throw it for them and pay for it. Whereas in Germany I think sometimes it’s
the bride or the groom that covers all the costs? Or it’s like, if the bride or the groom
completes all the tasks on that long list of embarrassing things to do, then the other
people pay for the night. But if they don’t complete all the tasks, then they have to
pay for the alcohol? I’m not really sure on this point. And one more big difference is that in the
U.S. the bride or the groom always knows when the party is going to take place! Actually,
they usually tell the maid of honor or best man when they want the party to happen. Whereas I believe here in Germany sometimes
the bride or the groom is actually just totally surprised by the party. Like, one day their
friends just show up and surprise it’s party time! I mean, they’re getting married soon, so obviously I guess they know it’s coming, but they don’t
know when the exact day will be. So my question for you is: what are the bachelor
or bachelorette party customs where you live and what kind of crazy things did you do at
your party or what have you seen other people doing? Please let me know in the comments
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low quality schnapps or cheap lacy underwire… I’m not really sure what that money is actually
for.

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  1. In Vienna, Austria bachelor/ette parties are pretty similar. But in my circle of friends the bride or groom never had to do anything they really didn't want to do. For my bachelorette party we also went out on the streets and I wore a tutu, which I really didn't mind; and we did some kind of a "Schnitzeljagd" (treasure hunt) and at the same time filmed parts to create a music video which turned out to be pretty cool. And I never had so sell anything because I don't like selling stuff. So I think it also depends on the bride or groom and their maid of honor/best man how extreme or embarrassing these parties turn out to be. As for my bacherlorette party, I really enjoyed it and I wasn't embarrassed at all, but then I don't really mind doin "embarrasing" things 😉

  2. I live in Denmark, so here is how I've experienced it a bit to the North
    In my friend group nothing is done to embarrass the groom/bride-to-be.
    But yes the parties are all day events, with 4-6 small event during the day (often the first ones are action packed somehow) and ends up in a party.
    And yes, the bride/groom-to-be never knows the exact time it will happen.
    It never involves strippers in my friend group, but I know it sometimes does.
    Another funny thing is that it's sometimes mixed gender, so that if a guy for instance have a few close female friend they will also participate at his bachelor day / party (mine was like that).
    Yet another thing is, that if the bride and grooms bachelor/bachelorette party is on the same day, sometimes the two groups meet up at the end of the day for the final party event

  3. I think, bachelor partys are a very new phenomenon in germany, which mostly take place in big cities. And yes, the idea came from America by so many films, and now they are "eingedeutscht". Oh yes, Wikipedia says the same, but it came from England. Okay.
    If you want to talk about real german wedding-traditions, then you should make a video about the Polterabend (rumble-evening?), where bride and groom together make a big party for all their friends, traditionally having to sweep many shards, which their guests produced by throwing old porcelain and crockery onto the floor. Nowadays they often celebrate a "Polterhochzeit" (rumble-wedding?), where the Polterabend and the wedding are the same.
    You also could talk about the more or less silly games, friends are coming up just after the "Hochzeit" in the church, for example they must saw a piece of wood. Once I saw them tied together with handcuffs and they had to look for the key in a big bowl filled with jelly. Not a good idea thinking of the gown and tuxedo.
    Another custom is the "Brautentführung" (kidnapping of the bride?) Some friends of the groom disappear from the wedding taking the recent wife with them, hiding in a bar. The recent husband has to find them and must pay for all they drunk in that time, so he better hurries up. Not only to save money, but very often such a "Brautentführung" means the end of the party, because – what's a wedding without the bride?
    A very cruel custom is to hide as many alarm clocks as possible in the appartement of the bridal pair. They are adjusted that way, that an alert happens every five minutes. What a wedding night …
    In some german regions the men have to clean the stairs oft the city hall, when they are 30 and yet not married. Women instead have to clean the door handles.
    A dying custom is the bride paying her wedding shoes with One-Cent-pieces. On the other hand it's the groom who has to provide the bride's bouquet and just hand it over in front of the church.
    Don't you think that's enough stuff for another video? And there are so much more wedding customs …

  4. Well, I didn't know the date, in fact, my best man showed up twice during the weeks before, giving me the feeling "It's today"!; but it was fake. In the end, w had just a funny day here, played lasertag, drove through the city with a party bus, did s ship tour on the rhine, and went trhough everals bars … thats it, but it was so grea. About the money: all bachelor parties I joined where paie dby the guest, the best man collects a specific amount from all and uses this mone whenever there is something to pay. I didn't wear a costume, neither did the other, but I had to wear a red whig for a few hours. And the worst t-Shirt I ever saw: all the guests wear a t-Shirt with a pictures of the grooms naked butt with the words "This ass is getting married soon" …

  5. I had my bachelorette-party this year here in Germany. I knew the exact date, but only because I had to work on saturdays and I had to tell my boss the date… And I didn't have to pay for anything except the stuff I bought at the Dildo-Party we had 😀 I didn't want to run around with a basket and sell stupid stuff or do embarrassing tasks, so we didn't do that stuff. We just met at my maid of honor's apartment, had some drinks, had a Dildo-Party (much like a Tupper-Party, but with sex toys) and went into town to have some cocktails. It was amazing and I had so much fun!

  6. My big brother was de groom. We live in Bavaria and not near a large city. Me and my/his friends knew that he is not into this walking around and sell stuff. So we decided to rent a cottage for a whole weekend in Austria. We were 18 of his best friends spending a weekend together. We had a lot of fun drinking and having a barbeque. There was also a sauna and a small swimming pool. We shared the expendses with all the friends, exept the costs of the beer. The beer was my gift for him. The groom had to pay nothing.

  7. At first, sorry for my english. 🙂

    I don't know really much about bachelor partys, but here in bavaria, some people celebrate the wedding kind of strange. After the wedding itsself, the bride(?) and most of the guests are going to a restaurant in a radius of, for example 20 kilometres. In that time, the man has to play some games or just sit there on a chair. Depends on who marries and what the friends prefer. As the guests arrive, the man gets contacted and he and his friends, or whoever waited with him, start to search for the others. He has to find the restaurant and then pay for the alcohol they have drunk. Too, the bottles are hung(?) onto a rope and the man has to wear them as a chain. So how many bottles there aee depends on how long he needs to search the guests.

  8. At first, sorry for my english. 🙂

    I don't know really much about bachelor partys, but here in bavaria, some people celebrate the wedding kind of strange. After the wedding itsself, the bride(?) and most of the guests are going to a restaurant in a radius of, for example 20 kilometres. In that time, the man has to play some games or just sit there on a chair. Depends on who marries and what the friends prefer. As the guests arrive, the man gets contacted and he and his friends, or whoever waited with him, start to search for the others. He has to find the restaurant and then pay for the alcohol they have drunk. Too, the bottles are hung(?) onto a rope and the man has to wear them as a chain. So how many bottles there aee depends on how long he needs to search the guests.

  9. I have been to more then 15 junggesellenabschiede and we did not do it for one day/night we used to go for two or three days. one of the best was flying to mallorca. we did trips to hamburg,prague, annefest and berglirchweih im erlangen. the hardest thing we did with the bachlor was to wax him with "kaltwachsstreifen". one of the best bachlorsurprise was when the future wife openes the door at 5 am,because pur flight started at 8 am and we went silently to their bed and wake him up with a furios chant that was so loud and horrible that wake up immidatly

  10. I wouldn't generalize this topic to all of Germany. I honestly have only seen those kind of bachelor party groups like a couple of times not more often than 5 times I think. They are still not that common and I'm glad they aren't because they are very annoying. Young adults running through the subway drunk as hell shouting and chanting at 4pm isn't something I'm keen on to see or hear.

  11. depends on where the bachelor lives. germany has many many many traditions depending on where in germany you are from. sometimes people even adept individually to the person they are throwing the party for.

  12. What is descriped here is only true for a certain kind of people (usually non academic people). In my academic group the bachelor "party" usually means a day trip like canoing, paintball or hiking. And then of course going out in the evening.

  13. As someone living in a German city that is big enough to have a bar/party center I am deeply annoyed by these people. Especially if they are selling something. I'm also really sick of people pretending marriage is the end of their lives but still getting married.

  14. I think the Bachelor Parties you described are a very recent phenomenon and I wouldn't go so far to call it a tradition. I even think it's very stupid and uninspiring, because as you walk down big city pedestrian zones, you find half a dozen of these parties, and they all look the same.
    There were two special ones I was a part of and they are worth mentioning here:
    First one was starting with a "Weißwurstfrühstück", after that going to a ropes course, having Pizza after that, suiting up and going to the casino and then going out for a party downtown with two white stretch limos.
    The second one started with the question "What can we do, that we will still talk about 20 years from now?" And the answer was: "Let's go to Monte Carlo for a cup of coffee in the harbor." The trip took us four days, led through five countries, and no smartphones were allowed. No planning, no googling, just stop where you feel like stopping and look for a place to stay the night. I think it's one of the most memorable things I have ever done and still talk about it.

  15. I remember a couple of months back, a group of drunk women came up to me in the middle of the day in Milan, as I was walking around minding my own business, and the bachelorette sold me a condom. I'm freakishly tall (6'5") and the bachelorette tried to sell me one of the extra large ones because she thought that given my height …. the whole thing was soo awkward 🙂

  16. There was one time I was out with a friend (in germany) and we saw some guys walking down the street with one wearing a really pink and bright, very skimpy outfit. He had to do some things, one of them was making two male strangers or two female strangers kiss. Well, me and my friend did it because they gave us free stuff for it and we thought it was funny. He also allowed us to draw something on his belly, my friend draw a penis on it, he said nothing and just laughed.

  17. The timing fo this video is absolutely perfect, because I literally just walked past a bachelor party yesterday in town. It was freaking annoying, they were screaming and drunk at about 2pm already, and I honestly don't see where the fun should be in that.
    That also reminds me of a bachelorette party that I saw in town a few years ago. All the girls there looked happy and like they were enjoying themselves – except from the bride. I kind of feel like something like that happens a lot, actually, because no matter how well you know your friends, you still might not know what they want to do for their bachelor/ette party.
    And this whole thing of not knowing when exactly it happens? It would freak me out. It means that you can't make any plans for the weeks leading up to the wedding because your friends could show up at any point, which is not only annoying as hell, but could also mess with the planning for the wedding. Appointment to pick a cake? Nope, friends randomly showed up. Shit happens, huh? >.<

  18. I can't remember having seen a bachelor party in here in Kiel at all. I'm sure there are some, but it is not a common thing to do here in the North I'd say. The Polterabend, on the other hand, is quite common.

  19. can you tell us about that background with the clocks sometimes? I always wondered about the stories that might be attached to it 🙂

  20. A friend of mine was left drunk naked and unconscious in a local park. When he woke up he was told that somewhere in the park was a locked chest with clothes in it. He then had to sneak around for a couple of hours to find the chest, pick the lock and then he dressed himself and could safely walk home. Fun times.

  21. As one of the older guys here I would like to point out that this is a relatively new tradition (perhaps 20 years). When I was a child no-one celebrated bachelorette-parties in Germany (if I remember well). I think it is like Halloween. People see it in american movies and then they copy it and spice it up with national specialities. The actual tradition in Germany is "Polterabend".. this is the night before your wedding. The couple celebrates together with friends (not family)… the traditions wants everybody to bring plates, cups etc. which are thrown on the ground.. the couple has to sweep the mess away together.. this is what traditionally happened prior to a German wedding…

  22. Well the Bachelorparty only made it's way here through US influence and mixed up with our traditions.
    On weddings there are a lot of games where the couple has to show that they are a team. The bachelorparty is using the same principle to humiliate the couple, but apart from each other. (In my experience next to no one wnats a stripper and certainly men that want to marry are not that happy with getting waxed, collecting kisses, numbers or reading out loud parts of "50 shades of grey" to crowds.)

    The following is not researched but personal expierience/knowledge

    Originally as I know(kind of 15 years ago) the couple would have a "Polterabend" (polterevening – yes the same word as in poltergeist) together.
    This is a nice little party at home with friends, buffet or BBQ and beer. Every guest has to bring old pottery. Then together everyone throws the pottery on the street in the belief that the shards will make the marriage lucky.
    (There is of course the problem with the shards on the street, whats why less peole did it from year to year. There the drinking to an excess in a city where no one knows you comes in. Dublin is beloved for this as well as most bigger german cities.)

  23. Last week when I was out with my boyfriend heading to the swimming pool I saw a group of women havening a bachelor party. But they were quite fine. The bride wore a headband with some lace on and her friends and so on wore a headband with a big ribbon. All wore black but I think like this is quite fine. And this was in Berlin. Till now I never saw bachelor party-groups where the groom or the bride were totally embressed. They all looked just fine.

    I don't like such kind of party. I guess when I get married I surely want a bachelorette party but more calm. Like going out for some good food and have a nice day in a spaa~ That's more like I like it.

  24. A really popular form here in Belgium is to rent a rolling "Kneipe"… think the multi person go-carts that are rented out along our coastline, only these seat twelve with a bar and tap in the middle (the revelers only pedal, a sober person steers the thing through traffic). Usually combined with the T-shirt thing, although those usually just announce the wedding; no messages of doom and gloom.

  25. These extreme variations of bachelor / bachelorette parties are the ones that are obvious, the ones you really only see! There are tons of less extreme parties, where people just have fun and are not completely drunk and don't have to do all these embarassing things. I agree on the surprise thing, that has been the case in all the parties I have been to. But we also payed for the bride too, they never have to pay for anything on that day as far as I have experienced it. Also, I'm not sure, but didn't that tradition even come from the US? Because 10 or 15 years ago noone here really had a bachelorette party… Maybe a Polterabend, but that's a completely different idea and purpose!

  26. I've never been to a bachelor party although having been on some weddings. I don't like that way to party either anyway. It's a thing that came up a few years ago, the more traditional way of celebrating bachelor goodbye is the Polterabend, where bride and groom celebrate together with friends, playing games like letting them simultaneously answer questions about the other one by nodding/shaking head and in the end everyone's smashing china for good luck. I think that's way nicer.

  27. The money they get from selling those products is to fund the party/activities/trip.

    What I find even worse about these parties is the people complaining and acting like it's the worst thing in the world (like here in the comments). Jesus Christ, just let them have fun! I don't like it either, but I don't act like a grumpy cat not wanting anyone to have fun.

  28. I like that our bachelor parties last a whole day, but I hate the costumes/selling stuff or kisses and stuff like that. My bachelorette party started in a morning with a champagne brunch and designing or t-shirts. We then went to visit the apartment my hubby and I now live in and decorated a little bit and then went on to have a picnic. With the help of champagne and wine everything is possible 😉 my friends all brought really really old and horrible looking clothes and we just got dressed in them and had a photo shoot. Then we chilled a little bit and drank some more, prepared dinner and had dinner. After that we went to a street festival and partied there. Oh and btw: I never experienced a bachelor party where the bride/groom had to pay. The friends cover the costs.

  29. here in austria it also seems to get more popular to do short trips instead of a bachelorette party? several of my friends have been invited on short weekend trips to paris or rome or prague, basically a crazy weekend of partying and embarrassment and everyone has to pay for it themselves i believe

  30. And i always thought, that Those Bachelor Parties, you See in Munich, are a horrible American Tradition 😳😳

  31. these bachelor parties seem to be imported from the US or maybe another country. As far as I know the day before the wedding the couple or their parents give a party, the so called "Polterabend" where friends and colleagues are invited who might not be invited for the actual wedding. Traditionally this takes place either at one of their homes or a restaurant. The guests will bring some old dishes which they throw to the ground in front of the venue. The couple in spe now has to swing a broom together, being filmed or photographed and very often enduring some light pranks. so throwing old dishes (which is supposed to make loud noises to keep the bad spritis away from the couple – the so called "poltern") is a tradition – at least in my region in Hamburg.

  32. Where I live in Michigan there is a custom,which is dying out thankfully, of putting the prospective groom in a cage,covering him with filth,and parading him through town in the back of a pickup truck.

  33. This kind of Party is running out of style i think. I know almost no one anymore who likes this.
    The last 3 bachelor party´s i attended were more some "lets spend one really awesome day together with all the friends and do stuff the groom likes".

    The first was a walking tour through our village basicly. Yes we were drunk, yes he was dressed in a costume but the theme was not to embarasse him. The like video games, especially role playing games, so we dressed him like a knight and he had to do "knight-stuff". Like provide supplies (food and beer) for his followers. We gave him chocolate filled gold coins and he had to go shop at a local market with them (the market owner was paid in advance of course). He had to hunt in the forest, had to fight bad monsters and stuff like this. Its close to the "classic" party in some ways but we didnt went to a city, it was out in the forest most of the time. Was an amazing day for everyone with BBQ at a local sea in the end.

    The second one was a "survival" trip. 4 hours of bow-shooting class at the start and than again a long walking tour in the forests ending in a small hut were we stayed the night with lots of drink, food and stuff. Again amazing.

    Third one was different. We dressed up in suits, hats and ties on and went to the horse racing track for the day, then went eating, casino and finally in a club.

    But yes in general the groom doesnt know the day and he doesnt pay for anything. We paid the whole day.

    So while there is something similar to the "classic" party´s you described we keep those embarrasing things out of it and just try to have an amazing time by doing things the groom likes.

  34. Haha, I guess this isn't a very popular opinion in these comments, but I was at two bachelor parties in the last few months and I really liked them. The first one was comparably tame, we did stuff like Bowling and visited a Go Kart track, didn't drink that much. The second one was more like the one you described, the future husband of my sister had to wear a silly costume (Cowboy with a blow-up horse in front of him), we started at 9 am and really drank a lot (I think I had about thirty bottles of beer and up to 10 shots. We were really drunk, yeah). But we did spend most of the day driving around in a Planwagen (don't know what the correct translation would be: covered wagon or caravan) pulled by a tractor. So we mostly kept to ourselves and didn't bother too many people, I hope. In the evening, we drove to a festival where everybody was drinking anyway. It was a really fun day, honestly 😀

  35. Didn't know that you have to wear these things in the university while getting your bachelor …. and those rose-peddlers from RTL didn't wear that stuff either! 😛 😂

  36. Hi!
    That kind of party is actually not German in origin. It was adopted some years ago. That custom is less then 20 years old.

    In the original German bachelor/bachelorette parties the other unmarried friends of the bride or groom would treat him or her "one last time" to everything he or she would "be giving up" in a not serious "last attempt to sway him/her".
    They would be pampered and catered to to the extreme with everything they knew he or she liked. (Or what they decide he or she should like…) This may or may not include large amounts of alcohol and/or strippers or even prostitutes. (The later being quite rare in the last decades, more so before the 1930ties…) Everything revolves around making it the most enjoyable day for the bride or groom.

    These "new" parties instead revolve around "punishing" the bride or groom for daring to leave and therefore betray the circle of the bachelors/bachelorettes. While still meant to be not serious the party is not meant to be funny for the bride or groom, but for the others. The bride or groom is supposed to be punished and publicly humiliated for his or her "crime" and is just expected to "be a good sport" and "take it in strides"… 

    As far as I know this tradition started as a (bad and possibly misunderstood) copy of a British Stag- or Hen-Party and sadly continued to evolve into the travesty that we can witness today…

  37. I actually just went to my first German bachelor party a week ago haha. It was a TON of fun, and you pretty much generally described how it (and most JGA's) went.

    Great video as always!

  38. I'm German and I hate this kind of parties. So we plan a bachelorette party for a friend totally different. And we will pay for her. Not she for us. First we will put in great Tshirts with "team bride" (that's cute). Then we go to bowling center and then dinner. And after that a limousine will bring us to a discotheque. We have to plan a little different as we planned at first, because the bride is pregnant with twins 🙂 but it's gonna be a awesome night anyway. 😉

  39. my husband's friends took him to an excavator("bagger")-park, where he could "baggern" for the last time, which is the German word for to hit on somebody…of course afterwards all the stuff you were talking about took place too, so he had to sell junk and kisses to girls all over town to make money for their drinks 😀

  40. Here in Germany the bride or groom also are taken to the location blindfolded and/or handcuffed (we did that for my friends).

  41. Well, marriage literally was invented as a form of eugenics by schizophrenic perverts. (Only the married were allowed to have children. And only the obedient ones [“believers”], could get married. Making sure every baby got born right into their mind cancer.)
    If you look at truly independent tribes/cultures, they nearly never stay together for life. Normally for 2, 5, 10, 20 years. And it isn’t necessary either, as the kids are raised by the whole tribe anyway. The pervert schizos [=“religious” people] made that shit up!

  42. I think this kind of bachelor partiy is just embarrassing for everyone involved or watching. But some people confuse embarrassment with fun, I guess.

  43. Some german mens just fly to Mallorca for a "jungesllenabschied". Most just for a weekend,because there they can celebrate it better .

  44. In Erfurt its common to sweep the stairway to the cathedral (the landmark of the city).
    Personally I find these parties boring and we didn't make one for our mates.

  45. "…and you saw a guy in a full-body penis costume."
    I would think, "My goodness. Are the kids seeing this?"

  46. A friend of mine was "kidnapped" right from his work for his bachelor party, which actually was a 3 day tour accross Germany in a bus and visiting all his friends. We therefore talked to his boss and his future wife without his knowledge because he would not available for 3 days. Everything is posssible. 😀
    Another friend had to wear a steel bowl with a chain on his ankle. The name of his future wife (terrible person) was engraved… He had to pay for the whole night. The Bachelor-Farewell (Junggesellenabschied) can be really different. Once we had also just a nice time in the Restaurant. Depends a little bit on the person of the Bachelor and what he (or she) is like. I am a guy and never attended a Jungesellinnenabschied but tried to escape from some girl groups celebrating it. They can be even worse (i.e. intensive) than the guys parties. This is something you can be afraid of as a guy. Sometimes it's better you don't know. 😉 But depends also from the person. As always.

  47. There is a saying at where I am from in germany about those Junggesellenabschiede. The ugliest one of the crew is probably the bride 😉 I'm living in a bigger town that is surrounded by a lot of agricultural land. A lot of those bachelorette (It's really most often women) parties are just not real I think because they are happening way more often here than there can really be marriages. Anyways I hate those happenings really really much 😉 and as a groom next year I swear that I won't ever be making such a party. Having mostly female friends I wouldn't even know how that would be working out 😉 I will probably be partying with my future bride.

  48. Very interesting video! When I've been to the AC/DC concert in Hamburg there was a guy dressed as a devil and his friends were wearing shirts that said: "Last stop before Highway to Hell" and on the back there were the Tourdates: Junggesellenabschied, Polterabend, Wedding. I thought it was a great idea!
    Are there also differences between the american and german wedding? What about "Braut stehlen"? Does that exist in America?

  49. It's becoming more common for bachelors and bachelorettes in the United States to make the party the party into a weekend-long affair. My groomsmen spent the weekend in Charleston for my bachelor party. We spent the first do or so on the beach, and the last day we hit the bars in downtown Charleston wearing suits and Mexican wrestling masks.

  50. I think this German kind of bachelor/ette party is stupid and I do hope my girls will not do anything like that when I am getting married. A nice girl's night out would be much appreciated and preferred. On a side note, my boyfriend's brother's bachelor party got a little out of hand, for example. They did all the usual things, embarssing him in public etc. but instead of at least one of them staying sober, they all got very drunk. So, although they had arranged for a place to stay and sober up, there was no-one remaining to watch the future huband after they had all fallen asleep drunk. So when he woke up, he thought for some reason that he really needed to get home, so he stole a bike and tried to ride home, still very drunk. Long story short, on his wedding day, he had to see a beautician to conceal a nasty gash on his chin which he suffered when he hit the pavement trying to ride back home.

  51. Junggesellenabschied is only a bad copy of American variations mixed together with Karneval. more traditional is Polterabend. That's famous in Scandinavia and whole middle European.

  52. For the next video, I ask for an explanation: Why the Americans' compliance with a court system that is more than 200 years old? The second constitutional amendment made sense when the next judge or policeman where a day's journey away. But today? In times of pony express an indirect election by electors was necessary. Today, it is nonsense.

  53. From my experience with bachelor parties for the bride:
    All her friends get together for planning and also pay for it. And we wrote a "mysterious" letter to the bride so she would know at which day she had to show up where and what to bring.
    Before a wedding most people are stressed out, so spontaneous activities are kind of insensitive in my opinion.
    And also just my opinion but the wishes of the bride should have priority, if she doesn't want a stripper, so be it. We asked her what she totally doesn't want and then started planning 🙂

  54. Sounds pretty similar to the corresponding Swedish parties. The main difference is that in Sweden all such groups in costume I've seen walking around have been sober.

  55. Schade, that you seem to assume what is "normal" in Germany or its just too much based on your experience. As far as im concerned you're often just telling what happened to you and think its happening all over Germany. I still enjoy your videos btw 🙂

  56. I would say that in the US, bachelor and bachelorette parties are announced ahead of time usually. There are times when people make the parties a secret from the bride or groom and they wind up surprised.

  57. I HATE the German way to celebrate, they get rather obnoxious and most people who live in Cologne seem to find them annoying too, a bunch of country girls come to town and get wasted and harass the locals.
    I am a server in a restaurant and I love my job, but If I see such a party (they are knowticable) I immediately want to go the other way. I always refuse the box of junk. thats also rather annoying

  58. I live near Bonn, Germany and my bachelor party was more or less unspectacular. I got a t-shirt with the Adam-Wes- Batman and the Burt-Ward-Robin on it and my "tasks" were more or less managable. I had to sing karaoke, I had to have all the girls in one bar sign my t-shirt and I had to buy the whole stock of one of those rose-guys (if you live in Germany you know what I mean) and sell those to the girls at a profit. That last bit was actually the hardest part. Other than that it was just an unusually long night out and we got home at about 8 a.m.

    Oh and we went to Bonn, because I left the whole planning to my best man and he didn't want everyone to have to pay a taxi back from Cologne, which is quite considerate, but you can have a lot of fun in Bonn, too.

  59. I hate those german Bachlorette parties so much. I think they're really embarassing and I've told my friends multiple times that if they ever try to do that with me, they can go by themselves and I'll stay home and watch TV. 😀 But to each there own, i guess.
    I'd much rather go on a weekend trip with my friends or something. now, that sounds like fun!

  60. Hey Dana, I don't know any Junggesellen who payed for their Junggeselenabschied, so that's not true. Also it's very dependent on where you live what kind of JGA you celebrate. In suburban areas or small villages it's often the penis costume thing followed by a local bar where all ends up by 2 am. Also with most women. Guys may start with a specific tee they're running around, but it often ends up with a 2-3 day event visiting another city (sometimes even another country).

  61. I totally hate these parties but at least day-drinking is awesome and something we really appreciate in germany (especially on Herrentag (man's day :D)).

  62. I had my Jungesellinenabschied two weeks ago and it was wonderful! I hate that Party in the city "tradition" so my girls came up with a brillant idea. i was visting my parents that weekend and my maid of honor suprised me very early in the morning with a cute little plastic crown and told me to get dressed. So first we went out for breakfast where we met the rest of the girls. then we picked up some stuff at our parents houses and drove out to the country where they rented a paddeling boat for us. Our route was about 4 to 5 hours long and we had lunch and cake on the boat, which they prepared themselves. with that we had Champagne and Aperol Spritz and of course some Schnaps 😉 We had so much fun and perfect weather! !!

    my future husbands jungesellensabschied is tomorrow. they meet up in the park then they take a ride at a historic tourist bus to the city center. from there they drive to a cute little hut in the woods they rented. there they will have a barbecue with steaks an a lot of beer. very chilled an fun. i think he will like it! 🙂

    We also had a Polterabend last Friday. It was a very nice big barbecue with more then 50 people (friends and family).

  63. I abominate the american dating/party culture. Why do so many ppl cheat on their spouse right before the wedding. I don't get American bachelor/bachelorette parties. They suck. I know there are different kinds of parties, some do not involve strippers/hookers but it is more common in America. I think, or maybe it is only my American friends who are more outgoing that than my Swiss friends.

  64. the bride or groom never pay for the evening. I have never heard that the bride or groom should pay for the event. I am from germany btw

  65. When my mother had her bacherolette party her sister gave her the task to (überreden; sry I can't remember the english word) the one in the train, who check the tickets (Schaffner) that all of her friend can drive with my mother teacher ticket. In return, my mum send a pink glitter crown when her sister had this party and she had to wear it the whole day (my aunt lives in Berlin and my mother hadn't the chance to be with her sister that day)

  66. In Southern Germany there is also the tradition of "Brautentführung". The groom's friends "kidnap" the bride and bring her into an ideally extremely obscure pub or inn, without telling the groom, where they went, then they all start drinking. The groom has to find them and pay for all the drinks, that were consumed before he got there, as a ransom to get his bride back.

  67. In Berlin, i've seen a Bachelor in a silly costume singing on the street – for money. His friends told me, that he has to earn money to pay for the drinks. If he can't earn enough, they have to stop drinking…
    And if you take the subway to the centers of Berlin, you often see a Bachelorette selling these waste. They are often very grumpy and get loud if noone buys something…

  68. Since i think you like crazy things.. a friend of mine had to collect undies of at least 3 girls on his bachelor party. You can't even imagine how funny it was to see so many hands slapping his face… I think the most girls (and i mean adult girls here… to make it clear) was not amused as he asked for her panties…

    And yes… if you don't complete all the tasks… you'll have to pay for all.
    (If someone is interested… he didn't had to pay.)

  69. When I married we didn't do ANY extra celebration. Not this weird new bachelor party stuff, no old traditional Polterabend. 🙂 I hate these kind of parties. Thank god my family and best friends do too.

  70. As far as I can tell/ from the "jungesellenabschiede"I was involved with. Everything goes like this.

    And for better understanding we allways thought of the bachelor party more like he/she is getting married, they'll soone have kids so we will be able to party less with them so it is the one big/ last party for the soon to be wed to have a real hole day or more just with her/his friends.

    So for them he himself often likes to do funny/imbaressing stuff with them "like in the good old times".

    all in all it's jost another milestone that get's a littel stereotypical apreciacion.

    1. the soon to be married or his partner make it public that they want a bachelor party.

    2. usually they choose somebody to be the main organiser.

    3. when it happens. This is just knowlege of

    A. the other mainplaner or dependig if both have a party B. the counterpart in the marriage.

    C. it wasn't uncommen that the marriage was let's say in spain and afterwards a hollyday. In those cases the party was the day before marriage.

    4. the bachelorette/bachelor knew nothing but wasn't "kidnapt" it was more like a surprise party giving her/him what he should wear and you would be on your way.

    5. the latest we started was around 12:00

    6. boundarys are set in advance.

    meaning we had some without drinking and other let's call them restrictions.

    7. the groom never payed a dime

    8. at least one was sober and in charge of bringing at least the soon to be wed home safe (mostely becouse of the wedding was the next day or really close after)

  71. We just do a city trip and the Bachelor has to wear something funny, not totally of the charts, but funny.

    So he had a BVB tricot in Munich and the other guy a funny hat in Düsseldorf (but there was an Animecon… So, he looked more normal than 95% of people anyway).

  72. Well I've been on a few already and it was always funny ^^ my girlfriends and the bride are always costumed in one theme and that's why it's more fund and less embarrassing for the bride 😉 and I've never heard about that the bride has to pay anything… usually the friends pay everything for the bride/groom including the stuff she/he sells and the costume… ^^

  73. I think here in Sweden it's more like the German version. I haven't been personally involved in any of those events so I don't know much for sure, but I think it's usually a surprise (sometimes they might even stage a "kidnapping") and often a little humiliating and they get up to all kinds of weird things. Once I was having dinner at a boat and there was a company of men there who were obviously having a bachelor party, because one of them was wearing a really messy pink wig and a huge cheap-looking crown. I don't live in or near a big city though so I haven't gotten to see a lot of things like that, unfortunately. Looks kind of fun from the outside, but doesn't appeal to me personally.

  74. If you play in a party band like I do, brace yourself for bachelorette party groups: they always want to wish for a song and yes, it is Helene Fischer's "Atemlos" every single time. My band plays on a annual city fest and for some reason this fest attracts dozens of bachelorette party girls – hey can you play "Atemlos"? Every 15 mins… Sometimes bachelor guy groups appear too, they usually want some AC/DC song.

  75. I think this may only be a west German thing, I've never heard of that here in east Germany at all, I just know it exists such as other crappy freak traditions in the west.

  76. In Denmark, bachelor parties are very similar to Germany, but AFAIK it's always the friends that pays for the day.

    And I don't get why a stripper has to be included in an American bachelor party or why even stripper clubs are so popular in the US. I guess it's because sex is such a taboo in the US.

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