Dinner with Friends (2001) Toni Collette | Dennis Quaid | Andie MacDowell – Full Movie HD

You Pretty good, huh? Judgment possible Got a DC tonight bummer. Yeah, well more food for us And this market that she took us to Amelia took a shocking gampo beep you ordered outdoor market fish produce You name it aromatics so colorful and thank you. I got some great shots Now this is someone who’s been cooking for 75 years. Can you come on relationships of food? It’s so primal. So Sexy really it was a great angle for a piece regular or decaf. Um, I better make it decaf The traffic to her place heroin, truly. What are you complaining about? I did the driving she did she’s amazing She drives like a New York Kathy. She does I couldn’t drive I was just to culture shock I was afraid I’d get us all killed Our bodies have to be shipped home by the State Department you and Tom have become the boys Guardians raised them on processed food What was going through your head? Absolutely. You are one more good dude. That’s but I’m all yours So, uh, did you ever get to Rome What? This is Ryan Beth. Amelia lives. Just outside of Rome course, I’m sorry. I thought this was Florence. No No, we haven’t even got Lauren Gerrie I do go on I want to hear about it. I do it. Well, let’s get straight to lunch So we get there in one piece Hearing oh this feast the Pomodoro tell her about the Amidala Straight out of her car wouldn’t believe I’ll grab these tomatoes horn Sweets’s Oh soft buttery And then she just took him and she crushed him finger feet in her gnarl little hands this it was a right this little Olli Was like really tiny she wasn’t like 410 or something. No. No, she was she had to be, honey She was definitely under five feet. No, she wasn’t nothing about it. She was like up to hue on me. No, honey She was yes. She was don’t you remember how they anyway? All the Pomodoro. Yes, the Pomodoro what’s amazing and simple Oh amazing. Yes You can do it Danny Yes, you can Danny you do it all the time. Will you just go do it you can do it he knows how to do Make sure the TV is on Channel three eyes Gabe. I hate it when you shout back and forth like that Just go up there and talk to them Oh God I’ll be right there. Just don’t talk about Florence without So, um if everything Was dinner no no dinner was great lamb and risotto everything was Fabulous, I overcooked the risotto was a little gummy. Oh, it was perfect. We’ve been running off at the mouth all night. I’m sorry No, no, you’re excited. I’m jealous. It sounds like a great trip. It was next time you and Thomas got to come with us We would have a blast don’t you think? Yeah, it’s just the four of us Leave the kids with Tom’s sister, they’ll survive with Danny and I think we came home and they were like, oh hello you again? Are you okay? yeah, I just I think I have a Migraine coming on that’s all well lay off the wine and I happen. I’ll get you some Americans. Ah I almost forgot you got you guys something Thank you so much they’re placemats Yes, Oh Sienna we spent the day there I should say all four kids all in a row watching Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory for the 97th time What’s the matter don’t you miss something What are you talking about He’s leaving me you left me is gone What happened Is in love with someone else who What I want to know if it’s someone we know Okay, I don’t know some stewardess a stewardess What with us two guys so tech traveling so much Nancy Her name is how long has this been going on a few months apparently a few months What did you find out last week? Well your way he confessed We had a fight about the dog. He hates the dog if the dog chews on the rug, naturally, it’s my fault. So You told me it was miserable. He’s always been miserable. What? Tom said that He said this isn’t the life he had in mind for himself If he were to stay married to me, it would kill him. You would die young Jesus Did you know about this? Did he say it? No. No. What? No, this is totally him. I didn’t have a clue We all just went out to dinner together Right before we left we went to that Indian place in Branford, we’d loved their chicken tikka masala Honey this can’t happen. How could he do this? I just don’t understand Feel free to jump at any time. I’m listening Oh, come on twelve there’s two kids he doesn’t want to you what’s divorce a divorce is Ridiculous. That’s what he says He says he’s tried for years to work it out. How how has he tried? He’s had it spent he can’t give it anymore His life, you know, he’s crazy about you. Oh, I’ve seen it you you can’t carry He said to me this is not a man who’s crazy about me. Believe me He’s in love with this person He says she’s everything I’m not What is that supposed to mean? He says she’s completely devoted to him Haha, such bullshit really the stop pouring out of his mouth. It’s like bad greeting cards He says I gave him 75% She gives him a hundred and twenty. He said that one hundred and twenty percent He’s into percentages What’s that extra 20% supposed to be for? Karen Oh What you didn’t go the extra twenty percent apparently not like she does Did you know he was so miserable no, he says I ignored all the signs I didn’t hear him Let me talk to me really talk to me He was moody yeah distracted I thought it was work or jet lag and find him Staring off into space and I’d ask him what he was thinking and it’d always say nothing What he’s definitely been going through something that much I know like what I Don’t know that I want to go into it Inappropriate stuff You know sexual stuff We went to the movies to see some kind of stupid action thing He wanted to see nothing sexy and I’m like, what’s my hand and he scratched it? You know cuz I look at him like what are you crazy? And he’s mortally offended This is before or after the girlfriend has been after Mm-hmm some kind of sexual daring test 1 1 1 now and you coffin got it. Yes. He one lousy hand job. You could have saved your marriage So is this why you flew to burst Kids have you told them? Stop shouting we hear you What Danny you can fix it. I showed you remember Oh must you. I’ll go up. No, I’ll go Stop shouting I’m coming All those vacations we spent on vineyard you Guys met there. We had such great times there You remember the the summer you and camera both pregnant How can he just walk away I I don’t understand it, how can he just you get the kids we should get going Do you see another one of these? Beth I’m sorry You thought Tom never should have married me What it’s okay Gabe. I know Tom told me. Well, I never said that okay This wonder if you were right Yeah Why don’t we have dessert oh, I don’t know it’s later she’d be getting home Wow, don’t they’re riveted. You don’t have to go You’re right Don’t you have it in by the fire go sit? I’m sorry to lay this on you guys. Oh, hey That’s the last thing you’re expecting tonight, huh? Oh god. Yes Oh, Do you want to do the honors sure Good what is it Lamoni? Mom, Darla polenta and darling almond Instead of white flour you use polenta. Mmm. It’s delicious Mm. I think it’s great You don’t think I could have beaten the eggs a little longer Don’t you think it could be a little fluffier? No, I think it’s good. It’s wonderful too much vanilla And possibly I feel so much better know that I told you Online I thought I was gonna burst You’re my best friends, you know, of course we are course my best friends in the world This is something Laurey Boy Darling What do you think of this your ass astringent Can you imagine what it would be like It’s been your entire adult life with someone and it turns out that person the one person that you completely entrusted your fate to Is an imposter. Can you imagine? No, wait a minute, honey. We don’t know the whole story What is there to know he was duplicitous it cheated on him? Yeah Yeah, but it can’t be as simple as that Karen, you know that it never is snake Honey, you’re talking about someone who black up until two hours ago. You thought was the salt of the earth I know I was wrong I can’t believe I could be so wrong about a person have I ever been so wrong about someone god what does this say about my Parents the same person you’ve known and loved for years. No. No, he’s not. He couldn’t be I’m beginning to think He never was that funny. It’s very seductive your friend. He has convinced. He was true blue. He really did What is simpatico guy decent loving? Hard-working a good father. He’s all those things so he made a transgression Transgression this is more than a transgression How could ever look at him into I again, I can’t after what he’s done affect me. So what do we do? We abandon him. Here’s my oldest friend. I don’t expect you to do anything do whatever you want I’m saying I can’t look at him anymore Maybe he really isn’t troubling Maybe he is now. What kind of friends would we be if we just went right ahead and punished him? You know, I have a feeling that Beth is doing a pretty damn good job of punishing him herself She is the injured party. What so what does that mean? She’s the injured party. So what we can only be friends with her I’m telling you. I can’t be friends with him anymore You can be friends with whomever you like As far as I’m concerned someone who conducts their life like this is not to be trusted. You are so strict Strict unprincipled you can’t fault me for being principal doesn’t forgiveness enter into it That’s too easy I’m sorry actions have consequences Remind me never to get on your bad side. You do something like this. I’m telling you right now. You’re out of here, really? Better believe it. No that’s sleeping in the dense shit. He’s gonna decimate his family. He doesn’t deserve to sleep under the same roof I’m swallow you mean if in a moment of weakness I sleep with a Checkout girl or something and I’m foolish enough to confess to you and beg for your forgiveness You’re gonna what you’re gonna tell me to go fuck myself. That’s right You mean we still couldn’t be friends no way are you kidding we couldn’t even be civil to one another At least I know where you stand any doubt Sergeant’s be quiet Sarge quiet Okay Shh Good boy, right Sarge Down down Sarge Sergeant damn it be quiet At least knock I’m sorry you just come and go you’re freaking me out Tom are you gonna go go Otherwise, I’m gonna have to change the locks. I didn’t come here to fight Alright, if I saw the light on I just wanted to say hi Hi Why aren’t you in DC? My flight was canceled. They closed the airport Why didn’t you get a room at the airport? There are no rooms at the airport. Everything was booked everything There was not a room to be had. I swear you should have seen what was going on there Everybody was pushing and shouting just didn’t have it in me to stay and sleep on the floor Why didn’t you call your friend the stewardess travel agent? Whatever I did And couldn’t she helped you with all her many connections? I Was 45 minutes from home. All I could think about was tell me home Don’t worry I’m in the debt. She’s worried. I washed your sheets. I wasn’t expecting you back You bids are wet I’m sorry Look down on the kids Sammy as snoring his head off in their Old no, he’s nose was running all night gave him some tylenol before he left town and Gabe’s liquid or chewable liquid Wow He lets you Usually puts up such a fight. Remember I used to make himself gag Yeah, well look I really like to be alone right now yeah sure So how was dinner Fabulous, you know, he’s incredible recipes. I picked up in Italy pumpkin risotto Grilled lamb. Mmm sound good. You didn’t bring any home by any chance, do you? No, I did not How are they? Always Run on and on about Italy thank God their slides me back yet Would you tell him about what? Oh my not being there. I Said here to go DC ex after that I shouldn’t accept that. You’re always going somewhere. So what’d they say? What do you mean? What did they say? What did I say about what am I not being there? They said they were sorry Sorry about what sorry about you not being there Jesus. You gonna cross-examine me. Now. Look I’m tired I’m going to sleep. No, I’m just trying to get an idea of what you’re talking I told you Italy and stuff they talked about this famous old Italian cook. They’re doing a piece on for The Times and And I don’t know we talked about a lot of things. What do we ever talk about? I don’t know. What do we talk about? Movies kids money news. I don’t know we saw we read Karen’s mom has cataracts. Yes to have surgery Hmm that it I don’t know tom. I don’t remember every single doctor. You tell me whole evening went by without a word about us Paranoid. Oh really? Am I? Really? You told them what you Told them you did I can tell I knew I shouldn’t have trusted you We were gonna get a sitter and tell them together remember face to face. That’s all Just come tonight instead of gonna have to be with your girlfriend. Where are the kids? What where were the kids when you told them? I don’t know. You don’t know were they sitting there? No, of course not there were upstairs. I guess watching a tape. What were they watching? What tape were they watching? You don’t know what tape your own children will watch it Oh for God’s sake that I know it’s Willy Wonka & the Chocolate pen. Okay So the kids are upstairs watching Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory and you’re where no, I want to get the whole picture They’re upstairs, and you’re where the living room? At the table middle of dinner. All right before dessert. What was it? What? The dessert some kind of lemon almond cake made with polenta Was it great? Yes okay, so you’re sitting there tell me we were sitting there and I Lost it Everything just spilled out. What’d you spill? No, I want to know what your spilled if you’re gonna be speaking for both of us So what if they know so they know they were bound to find out on some point You have the advantage now what I do not they heard your side of the story first. Of course, they’re gonna side with you It’s only natural. He’s taking sides. Don’t be naive. You know how it is. You prejudice my case. I have not Tommy I was very even-handed. How can you say that you’re sitting there turning on the tears? I was not turning on anything. Fuck you I stated the facts that were very sympathetic course. They were sympathetic you won them over I did not stop saying that I told them what happened. Okay? everything Yes, what’d they say? they were shocked they Were sad they were what do you think? They’re our best friends? Of course, they was shocked that would terribly upset It’s sad for you though, right because I’m sad for everybody that was sad for the kids She tell him what you did to me how you killed my self-confidence. I Did you know how you refused to hear me how I tried to get you to listen to me for years? Cried out for help. So many times. Did you cry out Tom by fucking solder damage? She’s not a stewardess She’s a detectable by human ears or could just the dogs in the neighborhood hear that that’s it Go ahead cut me down castrate me all over again O castrate you, you know I hear you say this stuff Tom and that someone that I could have been married to for 12 Years that I could have had children with would be capable of spouting such Pronouncements even now you refuse to hear I hear you. I hear you Christ Tell me a girlfriend feed you this crap. Tommy. I can’t believe it came up with it on you. Don’t patronize me I don’t need Nancy to tell me what I feel you patronize me from the very beginning You never took me seriously as an artist never for God’s Really supported me. I supported you our entire marriage How can you say I didn’t support you you need your own space I built you a studio up in the attic God knows what the hell you do up there all day long All I ever wanted from you was respect. You know that for me for my art. Oh your art your art What’s the use? Hey, you know what? It’s like trying to support something. You don’t believe in. It’s exhausting All the line the line to you the line to my saddle. I Supposed to tell you that I thought your art sucked Hollister is that what I was supposed to say and I thought it was just an excuse about to get a fucking job like everybody Else do I have to basically do something with your life? I would everything depend upon perpetuating this myth Howard Let go am a brick bitch Look ma Thing is you never know what couples are like when they’re alone You never do you Know that there’s just no way of knowing Flowey supplied at dinner tonight What do you mean? When was Terrence your suicide? I wasn’t silent. I was shocked I was stunned you Let me do most of the talk that’s not unusual Well, I hate no, I mean it you do do most of the talking Yes, you do. You generally have more to say on any given subject than I do But that’s why we work. So well together you talk I write you edit your vein No, I’m not you’ve even what don’t get defensive. I’ll just think all this marital talk is too close to home I think it’s made you very uncomfortable maybe uncomfortable. Yeah. Well you have to admit it’s not the most pleasant of subjects Don’t play dumb with me what you’re playing dumb. No, I’m not I don’t know what you’re talking about you do that You know whenever I want you to talk to me about something like this Don’t worry. You know what you’re trying to pick a fight with me now or what? What do you want me to say that this whole thing scares the shit out of me? Well, it does. Okay does me – Who the hell is that? Oh Shit you’re not gonna believe this I think it’s Tom you’re kidding. It is Tom. He’s supposed to be in Washington Well, he’s not he just pulled into her driveway. I don’t want to see him. Tell him I went to bed Karen Come on, you can’t do that. He’s not here to see me. Anyway, he’s here to see you. He’s your friend Karen. Please don’t I really Sad to see you guys I know I know There’s another fine mess I’ve gotten myself I’ll say It’s okay Karen, you can’t hug me not contagious Thanks Thought Beth said you were in Washington Yeah, I never I never got there the weather no my channel the night to be on the road Oh god, I was slipping and sliding out there what I’m just gonna drop in on you guys like this I was gonna call you on the way over but I forgot to recharge my phone. I’m sorry Karen don’t apologize to me So you had dinner yet, uh Actually, no just a crab sandwich at the airport vics you up late. No, no, no. No. No, you don’t have to do that No problem, really? It’s so late and everything Tom’s right? It’s really late Thank you Hey, you wouldn’t happen to have any that lemon almond polenta cake left would yes matter of fact we do. Oh great She told you about that Yeah, she said I was wonderful You talked about cake Yeah, why don’t we talk about why you can bond. I’m going to be Karen. Wait. Listen, I Know this is awkward Not at all. It’s a lot to digest all at once you’re mad at me I can tell I am not see this is just what I wanted to avoid. You already made up your mind No, we haven’t I I wanted us to tell you together. Yeah. Well, I really don’t feel like getting into this I didn’t want another night to go by without seeing you guys tonight honey, Karen, aren’t you willing to hear me out? I Mean really don’t you at least owe that to me Oh It to our friendship. I mean you guys meet too much variety. Just okay, Tom You’ve made your point you drove all the way over here to storm to lobby for our support. That’s very politic of you I’m not lobbying for anything Think you need to hear me out. You can’t just go by what Beth says pretty unambiguous, isn’t it time? No, it’s not I’m not the villain here, huh? And if you insist on seeing me as the bill and there’s things I could tell you about Beth Oh boy, there is just no end. Hello. You listen things got a little perspective on all this She tell you how she wouldn’t touch me anymore. I don’t want here. Huh Beth tell ya she stopped touching me You don’t want to hear it. You just want to be pissed at me. That’s fine Any man who would do this to his family? Do you think I would do something like break up my family lightly? Do you Karen? Is that what you think of me? I don’t know what I think of you all I know is she better be worth it Aaron. I mean it is so squalid a stewardess Is that what she told your mom Tom? Can’t you do better than me? It’s not a stewardess She’s a travel and you know transients the point is you fucked up Aaron So I thank you heads better go to bed. Maybe I better Good night, boys. Oh My just great Oh Good oh Are you do it? It’s very simple. You just marinated overnight lemon juice olive oil garlic rosemary Just throw it on grill sear it Fantastic Thanks. I Wish you’d confide it in me Tommy. I Should tell me what was going on your head what then you try and reason with me. Yes Maybe I didn’t want to be reasonable. I’ve been reasonable my whole life I’ve gone crazy Gabe. I’ve gone insane. I Feel better now than I have in a long long time What is it? Tommy’s is just sex just sex No It’s not just sex, of course. It’s part of it You know lately ironically The sex has been great But you mean you and death. Mm-hmm Pather still having sex no what? Well, I don’t know. I must be really out of it I just I always thought that really great sex is the product of trust and love and mutual respect and You’re kidding, right? Don’t underestimate rage rage can be an amazing aphrodisiac Huh? It’s really polenta Yeah, there’s no white flour and it just polenta You you and mother still making love But I wouldn’t exactly call it making love Bath really wouldn’t touch them anymore What do you mean? I mean the way that somebody who loves you might casually slip a hand through your arm or onto your shoulder or something. I Did an experiment I Decided I wasn’t gonna touch her at night see how long before she touched me I’m not talking about sex now. I’m talking about holding hands a goodnight kiss. She wouldn’t touch me Gabe at all. I Gave it a week. I couldn’t stand it. I broke down and cried. I Mean, I don’t know about you But I don’t want to go through my whole life hoping I’m gonna get lucky with my own wife I mean you go to bed and you think there’ll be sex and then you say something of absolutely no consequence whatsoever and Pistols are often the mood is gone and it’s lights out and that’s it. I Must have masturbated more than any married man in history. I doubt that Besides who ever said that marriage meant sex 24 hours on demand I’m not asking for 24 hours a day I’m just asking for a little affection Have there been other women no. Okay. Sorry. No, okay There have been no other women But not be charities though You mean when you’re out of town as much as I am? They’re on the road Lonely far from home Doesn’t seem like you’re living in real time and being some hotel Barnes drank up the conversation some female colleague or something for say with big hair and Make them laugh made look pretty in you. I feel competent again. You know, I think gee maybe I am still Clever and attractive after all Maybe that electricity in the air That kind of buzz that I hadn’t felt since college you remember that her single move any move it along there be sex I’d say good night Go back to my room. Call Beth About a guilt there. Hope both get some Shit about something that I neglected to do or did badly By the time I met Nancy She made me feel good for the first time. I talked to her on the phone. I named laid eyes on her yet She booked all my travel, uh-huh. She had this great Laugh and this flirty sense of humor and she says we’ve been talking on the phone for weeks. I want to meet you already Yeah, I started to think why the hell not what am I saving myself for this? Hypercritical woman waiting for me back home who looks at me with withering Disappointment all the time thus accusatory, how can you be so thoughtless look? So in the one hand, there’s this delightful woman who makes me feel worthwhile and this other woman who makes me feel like shit What would you choose So what happens downtown What do you mean? What happens now? I mean, what are you gonna do? Are you gonna go to someone go to someone? Yeah, like a counselor or a therapist or something What would be the point the point Tom? We’re talking about your family but the marriage is over what I’ve been telling how do you know that it’s over because I know Because as far as I’m concerned it is over. It has been for me for a long time Yeah, that’s the way you feel right now in the heat of the moment But don’t you want to be absolutely sure that you’re making the right decision in making the right decision. Are you questioning my decision? No, I just mean if I were you I would you’re not me. Okay, Tom What I’m trying to say is if I were you I wouldn’t want to be certain that there was absolutely no hope whatsoever Oh, I mean, how can you walk away Tommy? How can you just throw up your hands and walk away? I don’t get it Twelve years don’t you think you owe that to your kids? I stuck it out this long for my kids doesn’t do anybody any good anymore doesn’t make any sense What if this is just a transient phase or a midlife crisis or something? But don’t you want to know if it’s something that’ll pass before you do something. You’re replicable This is not what I wanted from you. All right, if you were really my friend, of course, I’m your friend asshole What do you mean if I was if you were really my friend you just listen, just listen Would you? You mean I’m not supposed to say a word. I don’t want your advice. I want to know what you think I just want you to hear me. Is that asking too much? Jesus Tom you Dropped this bomb on us. We’re gonna have opinions. Well, I don’t want to hear. I’m okay I’ve made up my mind. I just need you to hear me out Okay, go ahead talk No talk I’m all ears. My lips are sealed good. Hey, Tommy don’t leave Hey, I hope you never know what loneliness is really like I hope you never do Come on stay I’ll let you talk. I will I’ll keep my mouth shut. Thanks for dinner Wait a minute Tommy. I’ll see you Isak Let me take you back up a dollar well, yeah you do that Sure we are of course we are yes we Perfect Translations are in order Thanks when to do it Five and a half weeks ago almost six this gathering. Right, right Give my best to your folks, I will thanks Hi honey, I’m home. Hahaha I’m here yet. Nope, no sign of him What about your friend Beth? She’s not back from the beach Have you got enough to drink? We’re gonna need every last drop Did you get a load of those relaxation tapes your friend Beth lessons – she listens to them constantly Gabe What’s she so tense about anyway, yeah, she’s a little high-strung High-strung. Oh great. Hey, I know let’s introduce her to Tom Tom will bring her down to her That’s fun. Besides I do think Tom could be good for her. He’s essentially a good guy waiting to happen He just needs to find the right woman. Uh-huh. And Beth is the right woman. I don’t know. Maybe it’s wrong with Beth Did you get a good look at her sketchbook? well There’s no harm in in Judaism the source it could happen What are you doing Can I kiss my bride Go ahead and kiss your bride But can you tell me what is it? You always get amorous whenever people are about to arrive any minute Annoyed oh, yes you do. What’s that about forgive it? Okay, now you’re sulking I’m not sulking Come on, honey. I’m mincing. Garlic you feeling amorous tell me what am I supposed to do about that? You could try putting down the knife Uh-oh what you know what time it is what? It’s time for me to scare you. Oh That game. No, I have to at least time now. Come on Sorry, honey. Other man’s got to do what a man’s got to do. Okay, sorry, sweetie Yeah, I’m sorry can happen any second now Marita That was a fairy it was good beautiful boy the right to my vineyard having its long every year I you just get older every year No, I wanted to take my bike beer. Why yes, which? beer She’s in the city. Good thinking See you guys look pretty good. You click your bail on your honeymoon or something. Yeah, it’s funny how that happens So well, where’s this woman? You’re setting me up with? It’s not a setup. Did you say it was just an up? Don’t call it a setup. That sounds so cheating scheming. We just thought you two would like each other. That’s all I have No problem with chief and scheming. It’s not like it’s a blind date. You already met her at our wedding Yeah, you said remember remember at the end the woman dancing all by herself on the dance floor doing all that weird shit You’re kidding her. No, wait a minute. That’s not fair was a wedding. She had a buzz on she was feeling expansive So that’s the woman in question. No, I didn’t actually meet her Observer. Yes. Actually, I think Beth has been under observation. You know, this is not funny. Yeah this really she’s a Uniquely gifted person. Mm-hmm. How much seemed clear top? Yep. Only joking Beth is great Yeah, you’re going to love her great and this is not a set. Okay, she here yet She drove up with us on Thursday night. She’s probably the beach painting or something. Oh she paints. No just very good. Well, I Like her stuff, what’d she do? She does this? Um, I don’t know what you call it. Uh expressionistic Neo psychotic Gabe what? What does it matter what I think Tom can decide for himself if he thinks she’s any good We being incredibly negative and I wish she would cut it out. He asked me what I thought what difference does it make Jesus? Gee it’s really nice of you guys to be setting your friends up Guess you just want us to be as happy as your fallen are That is so sweet What’s for dinner no, but this corn salad nothing special. Oh, it sounds great What you getting son, yeah looks nice Thanks, these are always lines in the center What are you doing Hi Where’d you go? It was glorious the light on the ocean. I walked all the way down to the beach boy. That was some walk I love this place. I am in love. Is this your first trip to the vineyard? I won’t pass though spectacular clay cliffs The lights. I know I’m telling you the cliffs love. I do don’t there is brilliant terracotta And these people these beautiful men and women were courting in the clay. Oh, yeah and the light and their bodies were they naked? Some of them I’m sorry about this. Is this Tom? No, wait, I think we are waiting I talked a lot to the woman you were with she was a public defender Oh not anymore. I mean she’s still a public defender. I’m just no with her anymore. That’s too bad Necessarily she seemed great Yeah, as I recall I talked her a lot more than you did maybe if you paid her a little more attention Okay moving right along here. Uh, can I get you something to drink? I would love something to drink a beer wine red white Rubber tonic rum and tonic. That sounds great. Yeah So, is this your first trip to the vineyard Yeah it is and now I see what makes people so fanatical about this place this Amazing mix of sand and cliffs and rolling hills not too magical Scott you’ve been to Scotland I’ve been coming here. How long have I been coming here, Gabe? First time was the summer between the freshman and sophomore years that makes it wet 12 years. Wow You guys have known each other forever. Uh-huh. First day of freshman. Orientation was the first day first hour We met in line pink breakfast. Remember we made gross comm that’s about right. Okay So I guess I’m supposed to say I’ve heard so much about you, uh Have you? enough What do you do? I’m just another 31 year old lawyer Burnout but hanging in there for one of anything better to do what about you Besson artist Karen a damn good R to know and Uh, how do you know Karen? Doubleday, oh right in-house promo. She wrote the copy. I designed it. What a team. You still there? No, I got out I’m freelancing now. Imma order mass-market paperbacks Direct Mail the booksellers that sort of thing Do me a favor from still doing this in five years. Shoot me. Okay, June says So give me something to do what can I do that’s a shallot Beth really a terrific garden. I wish you would stop saying that like Expressionistic, you’re a neo psychotic Excuse me, but uh what style do you call? I mean, what is it? Oh, sorry. I Dunno I got really feminine. Why ask for labels? Why not? Just take it at face value? Can I see no, okay, okay Sharing one’s art comes with trust. It’s a gift I Never show my art on the first date Is a date Thought you guys said this one a date hey you’re a shocking time So does it feel different being married It feels a calmer than before. Okay. Yeah, it’s true the social pressure that comes with being single is gone We’re married. We’re married couple It’s strangely comforting. I mean, there’s no way out now. You’ve got a guy you might as well relax and enjoy yourself It sounds like wonderful when you’re single you expend so much energy You’re always looking I’m always being scrutinized. It’s exhausting. I wouldn’t mind getting married one of these days Having kids the whole bit. So do it. I mean the single stuffs getting awfully tired I look at you guys, and I think you know, why not? What am I so scared of? Anyway, I don’t know What are you shit? What nothing? Oh and aids Bathroom. Oh, I’m sorry. I Just sharpen those nuns. That should have warned you right it’s not your hair leaving The patient Please All right, really? It’s just a stupid cut. This is gonna hurt you a lot more than it’s gonna hurt me Thank you. Oh Look at that sky I’m so embarrassed. Don’t be an idiot Why just trying to be a good little houseguest and it’s like I end up in the emergency room Don’t worry about it Gabe and Karen’s job is to make the rest of the world feeling competent. It’s their job So I do actually remember you from their wedding – yeah, yeah You dancing right towards the end. Oh my god. I can’t believe you saw me. Yeah, I saw of course I saw you I was watching you. It’s beautiful. I mean your dancing is quite a sight Did you Want to go out there? Yeah, let me freshen that up Thanks Well So, what do you think she’s nice There’s intense better job sure think of me. I don’t know if he thinks he wants. Yeah But I like her Yeah destiny calls Why if you have a message for Laurie or Sam you may leave it after the beep if you have a message When he promised you a little girl you’re gonna call at 8 o’clock 8 o’clock comes And 9 and 10 terrible. She’s devastated sobbing He’s off somewhere cavorting with his girlfriend and Laura’s leaking these heartbreaking messages for him. Daddy. Where are you daddy? Oh God doesn’t get it did he finally Carl yeah. Yeah one o’clock in the morning you tell Laurie, I’m really sorry I’m the mom want to tell your daughter. You’re sorry. Call her when she’s awake and tell her yourself Was he always like this or sis? What happens to people when they break up do they get stupid or what? No, I’m telling me this whole thing with you and Tom It’s like man get back the years without really talking to you and they finally do is to tell you that they’re leaving. Okay, Tom Yeah You look wonderful you really do thank you we were worried about you really you disappeared on us I thought you were getting sick of me. No, I was getting sick of me Oh, there you are, sorry. I’m late. Oh, it’s okay Good to see you. You choked weeks months Laughs beer mineral water, please Karen still pissed at me. Um you can say that she Owns a garage doesn’t she? Yeah, I bet this was sort of a big So when you get into town, uh this morning he came with me, oh, yeah. Yeah. Oh she loves, New York Thought we’d hang out see if your shows So you’re going to see the kids not this weekend. I got them next week. I’m not gonna mess with that Believe me god forbid. There’s any change of plans. It’s like Nuremberg You look great I feel great Running again. Oh, yeah. Yeah Nancy and I we get up at 6:00 6:00 run 4 or 5 miles Come home, make love And I’m off to work totally changed my perspective on my whole day must be those invigorating showers gentlemen, your table is ready put this on my check is I think So did I tell you I’m seeing someone Devil, what’s his name? David? Uh-huh. God you made him. Actually. I met him years ago like 10 years ago or something He and Tom used to work together. Uh, uh another lawyer. Yeah. Well, you can’t have everything Yeah, anyway, um He just happened to call for Tom and his marriage was also falling apart. So I met for a drink And I’ve been seeing him ever since. Well, I think it’s great. You’re getting your feet wet to hell with Tom. Actually. It’s a It’s a bit more serious than my feet I’m sorry, isn’t this silly? This is like high school How long has this been going on a few months a few months he’s teaching me how to rollerblade Oh God Yeah, pretty good at it too. We play hooky some afternoons and he takes me out too You know now do you learn new pads and a helmet and everything? Yes, you could really hurt yourself on this Oh, it’s fun. You should try it will give you a game a lesson. Yeah, I could just a game He’s so full of life David. So open with optimistic. He’s a playmate Wonderful planet boy that was fast. Tom’s barely out the door Karen didn’t you want to be alone for a while? You haven’t been alone and a dozen years as always alone Don’t you see I spent my marriage alone. Yeah, but to get involved with someone right away How could you be in love with him I have only just started Sam I Knew him years ago. I said there was already a kind of a shorthand Well, you know I can understand just being exciting I can understand that but love Why is it so hard to believe I fell in love with Tom that first weekend at the vineyard? Look where that got you I’m sorry. I’m sorry. It’s just that I think you need to be careful Karen you’re very vulnerable right now. I’m gonna marry him If David is not tom He’s not there were very different men There’s no hidden agenda with him what you see is what you get, you know He talks to me He tells me what his thinking He lets me in. I know what I’m doing Karen This is the man. I was meant to be with I Had you survived Tom so I could end up with David. It was my fate That may be but still I wish you would give it some more time and let this moment pass I don’t want to let this moment pass Look, why do I even bother? Here is my chance for a real marriage a real partnership Do you don’t want me to have that do you I’m outrageous thing to say, of course I do finally feeling whole finally feeling like I’m on the right track for the first time in my life And what do you do? I’m not undermining you I’m only thinking of what is best for you Oh try been alone for a while That is so great about being alone. Huh? What’s up little out myself? I would get to know myself better That’s easy for you to say you have Gabe you have this life You know what, I think I Think you love it when I’m immense That’s not true. Come on You need me to be a mess you’re invested in it if he Karen needs a bath that really isn’t fair I was the mess the ditz the comic relief you got to be Miss Perfect everything just Right. I Had no idea you felt this way We can’t all be like you Karen God knows I’ve tried And he matter how much I stir myself still sticks to the pond We loved nothing more than having you in our home and cooking new meals we have to to cook you’re my family. I know I Spent My first 20 years doing whatever the hell I could get away from my family and my second 20 years doing everything I could to cobble together a family of my own I thought If I could choose my family if I could make my friends my family Congratulations family chosen is just as fucked up infallible as the one you were born into How are the boys Oh, Gabe We’re good we’re fine The thing she’s got me doing gay uh-huh Lucky you Nancy’s got more imagination more daring more Wisdom, I mean it just proves how age is totally irrelevant I’m a boy toy at 43 He strolling along Mitchell just put her hand on my ass or something like that. Yeah Without even thinking about you know with Beth sex was always up to me. It was never about her wanting me. It was never about desire, it was all about obligation and then once the Kids came huh? You know, yeah Nancy just has to stroke my fingers and I get hard or look at me or laugh a certain way you guys ever Talk. Oh God, yes we talk. Are you kidding? We talk all the time. Nancy hears me. She really hears me She saved my life Gabe. She really did she breathed life back into me? Good, it’s great What What are you thinking? What you mean? Come on, I know you I know that well, I’m just listening I mean, you don’t want me to say anything, right? Oh Okay, is it that what you said I said that to you and I was still very wrong Owen and now you’re not so wrong. Well, then what are the rules then huh? You got to fill me in here pal? I know what the rules are so that I don’t step out bow Okay, you want to know what I’m thinking? Hmm? I’m thinking that I hear you talking tom. I hear these words coming out of your mouth and you sound like a fucking bonito I really tried to tell you that I was dying You don’t understand that do you I was losing the will to live isn’t that dying? The life that I was leading had no relation to who I was or what I wanted It was deadening the constant logistics of you take Sam to lollipop tennis. I’ll take Lori to Hocking back No, no, really. This would pass this conversation in our house Dog finish me off at dog Sarge Fun enough that we had two cats and fish and a guinea pig No that felt the kids had to have a dog because she had a dog I’d spent my entire adult life cleaning up one form of shit or another now. I was on damn dog shit Should have gone into waste management. How do you keep love alive when you’re shoveling shit all day long? Wait, we call make sacrifices to our kids. That’s the price we pay for heaven. Really we want that Do you mean? You and Karen you really wanted it. That’s what I realized. I never really did. What are you talking about? settling down Having kids it was just another thing that I did because it was expected of me not because I had any real passion for it Like the law there was a foregone conclusion since the age of 10 that I would be a lawyer like my father they always felt just I Don’t know inauthentic living this life you mean that you Felt like a party boy trapped in the body of a family man. Is that it Tom? I could swear that I actually saw you on a number of occasions Enjoying yourself over the past decade But honestly most of the time I was I was just being a good sport a good sport, you know what I mean? Wait a minute. Wait, you mean you were faking it you Mean to tell me that all those years all those years Tom the four of us together Raising our kids together all those dinners the vacations the hours of videotape that you were just being a good sport No, but then what what patty you got to stop taking this so personally, well, how would you take it then? Huh? You just you say that you are wasting your whole life. That’s what you said. I don’t mean you and Karen I I don’t I don’t mean you I would never mean you I you’re my best friend I gotta be able to say this stuff to you. I’m talking about my marriage. It’s not that simple time We were all there Karen and Danny and Isaac and I we were all there we were all a big part of this terrible life that you had to get the hell away from Heizak, he’s totally freaked out by this by the way So when you were a PTA your entire adult life not what I’ve done that’s essentially what you’ve done And I can understand how you might quit it necessary to do that and it must be strangely exhilarating blowing everything babe. I mean it You you build something that’s precarious even in the best of circumstances and you succeed at it Or at least you make it look like you’ve succeeded your friends all think you have. I mean you had us all fooled And then one day you just blow it all to bits That’s just like I watched Danny and Isaac’s sometimes they dump all their toys on the floor all their Legos and blocks and train tracks And they build these elaborate cities in the days They spend hours at it and the plan and collaborate and squabble and negotiate but they’ll do it And then what do they do? They wreck it No pause to revel in what they’ve accomplished no sigh of satisfaction They just launched Italy full throttle attack bombs bursting and just tear the whole damn thing apart Look I just want you to be my friend That’s all I just want you to be happy for me Happy for you happy I turned my life around Yeah, sure Tom have you know you can be so fucking smug sometimes? What come on Gabe I’ve heard you complain Sure, I can play That’s what married friends do we joke about our sex lines and we Feli a better wife and kids But that doesn’t mean that we’re about to leave them Marriages all go through a kind of baseline wretchedness from time to time. But we do what we can to ride those patches out Oh, I see like my parents did What your parents did they wanted out for 50 years? Is that what you want me to do is it and don’t you ever just want to chuck it all and start over again? Don’t you get it? Come on, just a minute. Sure. Of course, I do. Okay the feeling passes the key to civilization I think is Fighting the impulse to just chuck it all and where would we be with everybody’s it’s running rampant Look, all I’m saying is don’t do it idea. Okay Don’t realize I was so skeeved in denial Resignation I know the signs believe me. Why are you bringing this, huh? You don’t wake up 50 you don’t get it I Claim to carry my claim to her Imagining a life without her just doesn’t exciting me It all goes by so fast, huh? The hair goes in the waist and the stamina Capacity to stay up late and read or watch a movie for mine six You want to hear a shocker Karen is premenopause me What’s right my sweetheart? My lover sweet Carlisle old around with on endless Sundays is getting hot flashes Just doesn’t seem possible He’s been our youth unconscious feeling mortal. Let me barium we have kids and we awaken with a shock to mortality There’s hours that’s all we see and we worried about them our safety our own airbags plane crashes pederast And we spend our middle years one. In fact that dreamy carefree part that part that we fucked and pissed away Now we want that back Because now we realize how fleeting it all is Now we know and it just doesn’t seem fair that so much of it is gone when there’s really so little left So some of us we try to regain unconsciousness and some of us blow up our homes and Some of us take a piano Or take yeah We have a valley Not a marriage Something like it Yeah, we were supposed to get old and fat together. The four of us might each other’s kids grow up cry together it’s not like I’m dad, you know, I guess I mean, I thought we Were in this together, you know for life Look, I’ll still be there but it won’t be with Beth So, how is best fine I guess We really haven’t seen that much of her lately. Karen’s supposed to have lunch with her today You meet David yet David, you know the guy she’s been seeing. Oh, yeah, no. No, he’s actually a really nice guy I don’t know anything against him. You gotta hand it to him hanging in there. All these years finally getting what he wanted What do you mean? I mean, he really fell from Beth, you know He’s really in love with her. I’m sure she told you all about it. Yeah. Oh, yeah Yeah, that’s what’s so weird about this whole thing is we could have broken up back then when they had their thing But we stuck it out ten years two kids later They’re packed together. Hey, I’m meeting Nancy up at the office. We’re going shopping. She loves to take me shopping She hates my toys got me this one for Christmas. It’s nice to come with us. No, come on Okay. No, really. I got so much stuff. I got it. You sure. Yeah, we’ll go to dinner before Hey, I got the kids next weekend. Why don’t they just actually we’re gonna be away next. Oh Yeah, my sister’s up in New Hampshire where he promised that Well some other time yeah next day You sure you don’t wanna just say hello now honestly I’ve got to meet our agent and then I’ve got to get to LaGuardia where you going up to the vineyard you’re kidding We’re opening the houses. We’ve Wow just jealous. Wish I was going with you Yeah, well By time Say hi to Karen if you think she’d be glad to hear from me and send my love to the boys. Alright, bye Oh, hey and tell Isaac everything’s gonna be. Okay. Goodbye LaGuardia Are you sure that’s what he meant when they had their thing that’s what he said what else could that mean? Are you sure he wasn’t just trying to discredit her? No, no, it wasn’t like that. There was nothing malicious about it he assumed I already knew that uh She told us herself Ten years ago, that’s what he said That was right after they got married. That’s right Those were such happy times. We saw them practically every weekend back then when would she have time to have an affair? I? Don’t know during the week Are you helping or what? Thought it seemed a little too convenient White Knight surfacing all of a sudden Tell me how much you’ve confided in if not names people don’t usually go around discussing their affairs. Do they Otherwise there would be affairs She told me this afternoon How could she you spent all these months betraying ourselves is the wrong? Her credibility would been shot to hell What does say about our friendship what were all those years about Yeah I’m gonna second act to my man Boys are very strange. Very strange with those funny little ups or wings Then you Paul’s just made the other trust began to trot If one of his own, okay His own huge wings in preparation for take college Ball ran along beside him don’t go. He said teach me how to fly. Ah But the albatross was already airborne, so what did you say when you let it slip Nothing nothing Okay. There you go. Playing dumb again. Why what would you have done? I said wait a minute back up what thing ten years ago you know it was I Just didn’t have it in me. What do you mean? um, I Sat there today listening to him go on about his new life kind of great sex and how wonderful everything is and I Don’t know. I just didn’t began to feel so Sad really, sweetie All right I Felt so detached from him. Really. Yeah, I could I could Feel myself pulling back. I could see him getting smaller and smaller and I Don’t know I I realized that I Don’t even like him anymore I Don’t Too much was said I Learned too much. I said too much That’s kind of how I felt today with Beth Yeah, my god whole chunk of our history had been erased and there’s no present tense. She is So resentful of me, I had no idea. I don’t know how I could ever get back to where we were Am I judgmental am I intolerant? Am I supposed to answer that so How’d you leave it with him? Oh The obligatory we have to get together He wants us to meet what’s her name? Nancy oh God, I couldn’t handle it. Don’t worry. It’ll never happen You really don’t think so Hey remind me in the morning I promised the boys steamers for dinner to my night He looks good, so does she she’s looking pretty again Must be all that incredible sex. Apparently I Had a dream the other night What? we were Here making love and it was so simple and effortless the way it used to be It still is sometimes Oh What is that supposed to mean nothing Gabe? I’m sorry. What go on? You know really I want to hear about your dream We were here in the dark And it was delicious and then I realized I sensed in the dream that we weren’t alone What do you mean there were other people in bed with us Oh our parents no No, not our parents It was another couple there when they were sitting up in bed alongside us Watching us analyzing us whispering in this ongoing commentary bickering with each other. Well, that’s easy. It’s Tom and Beth No, not timing Beth. No They were us What do you mean Those couples were us two versions of us young and middle-aged in the same bed at the same time. I Said all you have to say what any thoughts Well have anything no one type I really don’t know what else to say Great fine no of Karen, huh night, honey Honey, come on How come the minute we start talking about us you can’t speak okay I don’t know what you sit here and we can go on and on about everyone we know and all the problems of the world and the minute I oh You know for a guy who’s pretty damn articulate about a number of things I tell you I confide in you this revealing dream I had about us and you have nothing to say sure I do It’s About What happens to couples What the in effort a bold Evolution Inevitable yes, I Think it is. And what is it? What the evolution define it for me – yes. Talk to me Gabe. God damn it. You’ve got a cock to me okay, I Think it’s what happens when practical matters begin to outweigh Abandon Event oh Is that it? Do they have to I Think so I Think so Why well, you know Having kids Having to pay the mortgage making the deadline marinating the snappers Don’t you ever miss me gay Don’t you ever miss me The hope god yes. Yes Honey, sure, I miss you all. I miss you a lot How do we not get lost Oh Right Do you know what time it is what? It’s that time again. Oh, no what fraid so tonight It’s time for me to scare you Sorry Please don’t I’m sorry, you can hit any time now. Okay, any second? No, sorry kid but a man’s gotta do what a man’s gotta do I’m in the mood for love Simply because you’re near me Funny but when you’re near me I’m in the mood You

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  1. Out of the four main actors, who is your favorite? Tell me below and check out my opinion of Dinner with Friends (2001) 👉 https://youtu.be/ANsJ6nrHlYE

  2. Really enjoyed this movie. Thank you so much. It was so honest and a true reflection of how complex relationships can be.

  3. "Time" to fire the set designer, continuity editor and script writer. @12:52 mark the clock in the kitchen indicates it is 8:50 but as the scene moves forward by 33 seconds, the 13:25 mark shows the actors in the foyer with the clock having crawled backward to read 8:20. Then @ 33:00 timestamp and again @ 34:38–34:39 (which is presumably hours later per the storyline) while Tom is pretending to protest that it is "much too late" to fuss over him in making him something to eat, the foyer clock still reads 8:20 😕Can't help this tendency to notice finer details such as this as it was one of my designated roles (besides choral and background actor) for school theatrical productions. Having said all that, "time" for me to cease and desist. 😉😁

  4. I loved this movie! Ty, JW! Dennis Quaid was my favorite actor. He was opened minded & really tried to get his friend to see that the grass isn't always green but a family is most important.

  5. Wow the kids rule now a days! Time to start beating your kids again. If we as kids did that yelling at our parents. We would be told to fix it our self's & if we yelled again we would be beat within an inch of our lives! Problem solved! It would never happen again!

  6. Perfect ending as he harkened back to their early days of marriage (46:14 – 47:11 resulting in 47:24 – 47:28) and she still reciprocated in obvious earnest. It was their answer to the age old marriage question as old marriages age! That was the real hub of their fear when Tom and Beth's marriage crumbled – not just how do we now relate to each of them as individuals but how do we still relate to one another as a couple.

  7. this is Roberts Wife Anita: It was a good movie but I thought their would be more to the end. I was surprised that it just ended. I thought they would meet their new friends mate's and move on together. I thought the faithful couple would get closer by weathering the storms. 22 yrs. of being married has shown me that. It was one of just good movies and I do really enjoy them. Thank you for posting it.

  8. A very thought-provoking film. When you are young you think everything is perfect and will last forever. Sadly, that is not always the case. So I found it a good study on relationships.

  9. Did not expect such good entrainment hats off to all actors but I loved big balls of fire thank you

  10. Never get married. Unless you can find a 90 year old hotty who tells you where she keeps her heart meds'

  11. You think Randy Q.is actually playing the piano?''I'm in the mood for love..just curious..I'm a fan of Greg K.and Andi McD.

  12. Hi JW – just wanted to tell you how much I enjoyed this film. It is a very strong exposition of "coupledom" – married and vs new beginnings following marriage. It was extremely poignant at many points and in a very good way. I enjoyed the depth of the conversation between the various characters – the other day I watched another upload of yours and someone was thanking you for putting such good films on for us to see – I must agree and so now have subscribed. Thank you very much!!! As for my favorite actor – it is difficult to state. Dennis Quaid, I think. Though I enjoyed them all for their singular qualities. Overall, I found the acting very good.

  13. Australian actress Toni Collette is a great character actress who never sacrifices role for glamor. She always plays true to the role.

  14. Great movie 👍 can you post some John Travolta movies, like Urban Cowboy? PLEASE?? ♥️🔥

  15. Great movie, though it felt like the story ended too soon. It left me wanting more… Thanks for sharing.

  16. How much movies making, friendships and relationships have changed in the last two decades! How direct they are here. Why have one favorite friend? All four are so interesting and great!

  17. One thing I have learnt as a 61 year old man, is that I will never understand relationships, what makes them work or not work. Forget it, it's a mystery, and never get involved in a break up, women always drag others into her arguments, they never fight the ex alone.
    Divorce, 3 things, her story, his side of the story and then the truth.

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