Does Marriage Matter?


Announcer: The following isa presentationofTomorrow’s World. The twentieth century saw dramatic changes in moral behavior, especially in what are known as “western nations;” principally Europe and the English-speaking world of North America, Australia, and New Zealand. To a great degree, this was a result of the Darwinian view that we are the product of blind chance rather than supernatural intelligence. The atrocities of World War 2 also caused people to question whether such carnage could happen in the presence of a loving God. Penicillin and the “pill” played a part in freeing people from two of the greatest fears of intimacy outside of marriage: pregnancy and disease. Only the perception changed, not the problems. Premarital pregnancies still happen at an alarming rate and STD’s are ever-present, debilitating and deadly! Then there were the intellectuals, the secular evangelists of the new morality: Fraud, Kinsey, William Masters, and Virginia Johnson, Edward Brecher and others. They aimed to liberate us from our repressive Victorian past. Regardless of the cause, the effects have been dramatic. Behaviors that were once shameful are now considered normal. Isn’t it time that we ask: Is the direction we chose, working? Has our new morality, or better yet, our lack of morality, left us better or worse? Is it not time to re-evaluate? Today onTomorrow’s WorldI’m asking and answering the question, Does marriage matter? Don’t go away, because I’ll be right back to answer that question with the facts! ♪ Welcome toTomorrow’s Worldwhere today we will explore the question, Does Marriage Matter? This is no trivial question, because I guarantee that every one of you who are watching this program, are touched by the answer one way or the other. There was a dramatic shift away from moral values in the last century. A majority of people in professing Christian nations in America, Europe and elsewhere, once had a certain consciousness of God. Both Christians and Jews looked to some degree to the Bible and especially the Ten Commandments as the guiding light for behavior. Those rules tempered raw human behavior, but during the second half of the Twentieth Century, belief in God and morality in these nations deteriorated rapidly. The philosophy of Secular Humanism replaced the Ten Commandments in courts and educational institutions. Secular Humanism expresses the view that humans can be ethical and moral without religion or God, but is this so? The problem is that people cannot agree upon what is moral and ethical. A quick Internet search on the subject of adultery proves this point. From Psychology Today, Michael W. Austin a PhD writes: But, in another Psychology Today essay, Clifford N. Lazarus, another PhD, writes: So while most of us who are married believe it is morally proper for our mates to be faithful to us, not everyone agrees. In Richard Wasserstrom’s essay, he approaches the subject through human reason, presenting arguments from both sides of the question. Human reason is what philosophy is, and human reason is the curriculum of education at all levels. Thomas Paine published The Age of Reasonin three parts between1794 and 1807.Paine was a Deist.He believed in a higher power, but rejected revealed knowledge as found in the major religions, and religious books such as the Bible. In effect, he substituted human reason for revelation. In the introduction to today’s program, I asked these questions: Is the direction we chose working? Has our new morality, or better yet– our lack of morality– left us better or worse? And is it not time to re-evaluate? What are the facts? Where has human reason led us? Let’s look at three consequences of our humanly reasoned new morality. This point is interesting because human reason and common perception don’t match the facts. Human reason says it is good to test someone prior to marriage, whether he or she is compatible with you, as one would test drive an automobile or a boat before purchasing it. The United States Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, reports this finding in a 2016 National Health Statistics Report: This is what the majority of people think, but what are the facts? Jay Teachman of Western Washington University explains in a study titled: “Premarital Sex, Premarital Cohabitation, and the Risk of Subsequent Marital Dissolution Among Women”: This isnotwhat researchers expected to find and that makes the findings even more impressive. Many studies are conducted to prove a point of view, but when the facts are different and are still reported honestly, you have a worthwhile study! Here is what they expected to find: Study after study shows that humanly reasoned sleeping together prior to marriage has a poor track record. That’s our first reason why marriage matters. I’ll be back with another reason after a short break to tell you about today’s free offer: “God’s Plan forHappy Marriage.” Whether you are married or single, you need this resource. All you have to do is call the toll free number and ask for today’s offer. Just ask for the Marriage booklet. Or, you can obtain or download a copy free of charge by going to our website: www.tomorrowsworld.org I’ll be right back with one more evidence that marriage matters, so don’t go away. ♪Announcer: To receivethis program’s offerabsolutely free,or if you would likemore information,call the number shown or visitour website online atTomorrowsWorld.org.Or you can write us atthe address shown.Announcer: With this offer,you will also receiveyour free subscription toTomorrow’s Worldmagazinefull of timely articles andunique insightson today’s important issues.And be sure to go toTomorrowsWorld.org/digital.Have a digital subscriptionsent right to your email inbox.Faster than postal mail!Visit us online, now!On today’s Tomorrow’s World I’m asking the question, “Does marriage matter?” In the previous segment we looked at one consequence of human reason when it comes to how we conduct ourselves prior to marriage. Now let’s look at another reason why marriage matters Unplanned pregnancies are common within marriage. How many of us were “accidents?” In marriage, there is a mother and father to love and care for a child, even when it’s an unplanned, but a child coming into the world outside of a stable parental relationship is a very different matter. The dynamics are not the same. According to Time Magazine online, in a story by Amy Sullivan titled: “Behind the Boom in Adult Single Motherhood,” the group with the highest rate of unplanned pregnancies among single women is not teens, as many suppose. It’s actually single women in their 20’s. And fully 7 of 10 pregnancies to these 20 somethings, were unplanned. Now this creates a problem. Many women choose to abort their problem, but this has moral implications and may create long-lasting psychological issues not anticipated. But, what about those who give birth? What are the consequences for both mother and child? Quoting Ms. Sullivan in theTimearticle: And then, what about the three in 10 single women in their 20’s who actually plan to have a child out of wedlock? Many excuses are given as to why so many are choosing babies before commitment. One such excuse is that of poverty. Men can’t afford to raise a family. But is this reasoning valid? Advice columnist, Emily Yoffe, writing under the name ofPrudenceforSlate, a liberal online U.S. magazine, wrote the following in response to this argument: Ms. Yoffe describes the current single parent scene in America as a “national catastrophe.” While she promotes the importance of marriage and family, readers respond with a variety of excuses, such as: Note that all these excuses are emotionally– not factually–based. When Ms. Yoffe is confronted with the accusation “You are simply out of touch with modern culture,” she replies: The problem with human reason is that humans reason differently, making this method of decision making unreliable. Emotions and agendas get in the way of rational thinking. Sadly, children are sometimes conceived for all the wrong reasons. The result is not good for children. Quoting once again from Ms. Sullivan: So far we’ve seen that the new morality is not good for marriages or children. After a 30-second break, I’ll give you a third consequence of our humanly devised approach to morality, but I want to remind you of today’s free offer: “God’s Plan for HappyMarriage.” If you are married, why not learn how to make your marriage even better. And if you are unmarried, discover the secrets that may increase your odds of forming a marriage relationship.God’s Plan for Happy Marriageis yours free for the asking. All you have to do is pick up the phone and call, or go to our website. I’ll be right back to show you our third and final consequence of humanly devised morality, so don’t go away.Announcer: Today’s offeris yours absolutely free,no cost, no obligation.Visit us online atTomorrowsWorld.org.Find us on Facebook,watch us on Youtube,and follow us on Twitter.So far we’ve seen that moral choicesdomatter. They matter to marriages and they matter to children. One could make a long list of negative consequences for choosing reason over revelation. Historians and social workers know that the break-up of families has a disastrous effect on the fabric of nations. But in this segment of our program, I’m going to focus on one indisputable negative consequence that ought to be evident to all: the spread of deadly and life-debilitating diseases. Even though 2008 sounds like ancient history to most teens, little has changed since this shocking headline from the Centers for Disease Control appeared in newspapers across America:The article explained:A more up-to-dateheadline from the CDC reports this for the year 2016: But no worry! Human reason will step in. Note this advice for young women. Instead of counseling them to be politically incorrect and make decisions based on revelation, the advice given is based on human reason. Here is a little of what the vaunted CDC counsels young women. Note that it is an attempt todetectthe result of dangerous behavior rather than avoid it. Now let’s be clear about this. These are not harmless infections. Depending on which STD, it can cause sterility, chronic pain, life-threatening ectopic pregnancies, sickening rest-of-life cocktail drug treatments, and even death. And what a joy it must be, to be in the position where you have to report to the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, that you have one of the many incurable kinds that can be passed to that partner! To be fair, the CDC does offer options to avoid STD’s, but they’re just that, options. There is no encouragement to choose one over the other. The five the offer are… It should be noted that only two of these guarantee against these dangerous diseases: Abstinence and mutual monogamy. Of course the latter is only if two people are faithful prior to and following their partnership. I hate to put it that way, because I find the term “partner” to be repulsive, unless it’s preceded by marriage! So what’s the answer? The answer is that marriage matters when considering the most intimate of human relationships, and there are invisible laws at work that make for success or failure. I’ll be back shortly to explain what I mean, but I want to remind you of today’s free offer:God’s Plan for Happy Marriage. Many men and women are afraid of marriage. They’ve seen so many unhappy marriages that they avoid commitment. In the last segment of today’s program, I’ll show the source for these invisible laws that govern marriage, but you need our free publication:God’s Plan for Happy Marriageto explain those unseen laws. I’ll be right back with the answer that human reason fails to give. ♪Announcer: To receivethis program’s offerabsolutely free,or if you would likemore information,call the number shown or visitour website online atTomorrowsWorld.org.Or you can write us atthe address shown.Announcer: With this offer,you will also receiveyour free subscription toTomorrow’s Worldmagazinefull of timely articles andunique insightson today’s important issues.And be sure to go toTomorrowsWorld.org/digital.Have a digital subscriptionsent right to your email inbox.Faster than postal mail!Visit us online, now!The sexual revolution–what is often referred to as the new morality–really took off in the 1960’s. It’s not that everyone was free from acting as an alley cat prior to this time. Far from it, but the 60’s saw a dramatic change in Western attitudes. Edward M. Brecher wrote the following in 1969: This quote is found in Wendy Shalit’s,A Return to Modesty. Ms. Shalit responds to this statement with the following: What are these “older rules?” Thomas Paine wasn’t the first to exalt reason over revelation, but as we have seen human reason is failing. As we’ve seen… Long before Thomas Paine, the first two human beings were given instruction from an Intelligent Being far greater than them. That Intelligent Being knew all about chemistry and biology, anatomy, and invisible laws that–when kept produce good results– but when broken, bring pain, sorrow, and death. This Being understood these things, because He was their Creator. He gave our first parents a choice. They could accept revealed knowledge that would enlighten them regarding these invisible laws, or they could choose for themselves the prerogative to determine right and wrong. As all students of the Bible know, they chose poorly. They put their trust in their five senses and in their ability to reason. They would have been proud of Thomas Paine, but what are the results of their experiment? The results are all around us: conflict between peoples and nations, broken families, divorce, disease, and suffering of every kind. The God of the Bible is not vague when it comes to relationships. The Bible makes it clear that God created us for intimacy. Here it is in the first chapter of this book that we know as the Bible– Genesis 1:27-28… A little later God instructed the man to form a union that we call marriage. Chapter 2, verses 24 and 25: Take careful note that there was no shame at this point, but that would soon change. After they made the choice to trust their own reasoning, they saw themselves differently. Now here is a critical point most people read right over– verse 11: It was only after our parents rejected revelation and chose their own way that they saw their bodies in a bad light. Yes, there is a spirit power that messes up the most intimate relationship between men and women, but it’s not our Creator! The Bible tells us that full intimacy within marriage is good and proper. Marriage is an institution to be honored, but notice the difference between the marriage and unmarried states: The Apostle Paul counsels us to avoid sexual immorality, because it brings about painful penalties. Notice this in 1 Corinthians 6:18… Our experiment in human reason has gone on way too long. The evidence is in. If we have eyes to see we must conclude that the God of the Bible knows better than we do. Here at Tomorrow’s World we are not so naive as to think that we have the ability to change anyone’s behavior… but we do believe that we can present the truth of the Bible, along with factual information from which individuals can choose. The results of human behavior are obvious. Disobedience to God’s laws brings pain and suffering. Obedience to His laws brings happiness to life. If you want to learn more about the invisible laws governing marriage, be sure to order your free copy ofGod’s Plan for Happy Marriage. And be sure to come back next week when Richard Ames, Wallace Smith, and I, along with guest presenter Rod McNair will continue to share with you the inspiring teachings of Jesus Christ, the encouraging good news of the coming Kingdom of God, and the exciting end-time prophecies and their meaning. Join us next week, same time, same station! ♪Announcer: To take advantageof today’s free offer,or view today’s program nowor anytime,go toTomorrowsWorld.org.Find us on Facebook,watch us on YouTube,and follow us on Twitter.Announcer: The precedingprogram is producedby the Living Church of God.

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