How can we marry more than one wife in these modern days? – Abdur-Raheem Green


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  1. @spl0uf scientifically its proven that many diseases can come from this. but in the case of a man marrying more then one woman there is no such thing. Allah has great knowledge he is the one who decides the best for us. salam

  2. @spl0uf from what i have learnt, some1 with aids should marry a person also with aids. and when considering to have a child, they should adopt an orphan rather than have their own, as the child will be born of aids.

  3. Imagine she got pregnant… who is the husband? This problem doesn't happen the other way around… but ofcourse, there are many other reasons too.

  4. Muhammad's religion is not relevant worldwide. Ha. He said dont do what Muhammad did. His example will break you. And he used cheating and infidelity as a valid excuse for polygamy. Wow.

  5. Frankly you talks started good..But why putting your ideas about not Marrying a 2nd wife..As me was on to get married a 2nd woman in difficulty but my 1st wife heard your talks.. N all mess uo..Hope you will feel Happy for messing all… Fear Allah more.You shouldnt give your personal option..

  6. Polygamy only makes sense if there is a very high female to male ratio eg after a war. In most parts of the world there are actually more women than men.

  7. Only men interesting have more wife and more xxxx .What is good for woman ,that is only tears in the eyes everyday.

  8. How does one practice polygamy correctly? I’m a born again Christian where we marry one man, Genesis says God created them male and female where a man shall leave his mother and father and Marry ONE woman Not 35. I pray for God’s forgiveness upon you about your twisting his words twisting his sacred institution of marriage and most of all that you find forgiveness through Jesus Christ our Lord

  9. If your sister are a widow, she had couple a kids. Her kids need a father figure, need economically support, and security. At the same time there is a marriage man, a good person in any, want to marry her for second wife, to become a father for her kids, to became husband for her. And His family don't have problem wit that, I want to know WHY you not agree with poligamy. Polygamy is not a must if moslem man had a difficulties in economy for example. Millions moslem man not practice poligamy because of that. Become a widow is possible, and not marriage again to a single man is a possible too. Think the kids, we want they growing up with happy big family. That is beautiful.

  10. Generally speaking and for good purpose polygamy is a good blessed thing.However it is very unique to every persons circumstances ,i.e it has its conditions (which are not based on our opinion ) like the speaker is trying to influence the audience based on his personal experience and opinions.Advise for using Islamic ruling and advise against using Islamic rulings .Fear Allaah and never mix your opinions on matters of the deen when there is clear cut guidance.And Allaah knows best.

  11. *****ONLY UNDER STRICT CONDITIONS***** Conditions which many – such as yours truly might not be able to able to abide by.

  12. Many poor widow with childrens in this world so, who give them food/money, protection and affection if a man only choose a virgin girl for him self? You can marry a girl and this poor widow at same time… but of course it requiers hard work, great responsability and big commitment from a man to feed and maintain two families even more. That's in islam. Commitment from a gentleman!

  13. Global ratio male:female is approx 1.02:1 meaning more males than females.
    In all Islamic countries, this ratio is even higher, up to 3:1.
    Polygamy makes no sense whatsoever.
    More boys being born than girls.
    The only positive argument is that females are living longer than males hence why now more females than males in some parts of the world, but do women over 65 want a polygamous relationship?

  14. An experience Muhammad had as a child.
                When Muhammad was a child he was nursed by a Bedouin woman.  During this time he had an experience with "two men in white raiment".  Here is W. M. Watt's translation of Ibn Ishaq's biography of Muhammad, page 36

                "…two men in white clothes came to me with a golden basin full of snow.  They took me and split open my body, then they took my heart and split it open and took out from it a black clot which they flung away.  Then they washed my heart and my body with that snow until they made them pure."  [1]

                This event deeply disturbed the Bedouins and they returned Muhammad to his mother.  Here is the story told by Muhammad's wet-nurse, related in Guillaume's translation of Ibn Ishaq, page 72:

                "His [Muhammad's friend's] father said to me, "I am afraid that this child has had a stroke, so take him back to his family before the result appears. …..   She [Muhammad's mother] asked me what happened and gave me no peace until I told her.  When she asked if I feared a demon had possessed him, I replied that I did."  [2]

                Note that Muhammad's wet-nurse believed he had been possessed by a demon.  One would expect some degree of attachment between the two, since she nursed him, so it is extraordinary that she would return him in those circumstances:  something very troubling actually occurred.

    2)         Muhammad's experience in the cave – his call to "prophethood".

    Quoting from the Hadith of Bukhari, 9.111:

    Narrated 'Aisha:

    The commencement of the Divine Inspiration to Allah's Apostle was in the form of good righteous (true) dreams in his sleep. He never had a dream but that it came true like bright day light. He used to go in seclusion (the cave of) Hira where he used to worship(Allah Alone) continuously for many (days) nights. He used to take with him the journey food for that (stay) and then come back to (his wife) Khadija to take his food like-wise again for another period to stay, till suddenly the Truth descended upon him while he was in the cave of Hira. The angel came to him in it and asked him to read. The Prophet replied, "I do not know how to read." (The Prophet added), "The angel caught me (forcefully) and pressed me so hard that I could not bear it anymore. He then released me and again asked me to read, and I replied, "I do not know how to read," whereupon he caught me again and pressed me a second time till I could not bear it anymore.  He then released me and asked me again to read, but again I replied, "I do not know how to read (or, what shall I read?)." Thereupon he caught me for the third time and pressed me and then released me and said, "Read: In the Name of your Lord, Who has created (all that exists). Has created man from a clot. Read and Your Lord is Most Generous…up to….. ..that which he knew not." (96.15)

    Then Allah's Apostle returned with the Inspiration, his neck muscles twitching with terror till he entered upon Khadija and said, "Cover me! Cover me!" They covered him till his fear was over and then he said, "O Khadija, what is wrong with me?" Then he told her everything that had happened and said, 'I fear that something may happen to me." Khadija said, 'Never! But have the glad tidings, for by Allah, Allah will never disgrace you as you keep good relations with your Kith and kin, speak the truth, help the poor and the destitute, serve your guest generously and assist the deserving, calamity-afflicted ones."

  15. Quran the prescribed book for mankind is the only book asking men to not marry more than 1 if men cnt be just to the women and kids.hence ur wifes disapproval,busy life and financial crisis prohibits more than 1 marriage for muslims

  16. Its rather difficult situation if you’re in, and if both parties can makes em happy then you do goods for them 👍

  17. Simple answer and logik,
    Why man can marry more then one?
    Any son or daughter from any of the wife, name of the father wil be same. But if women marry more then one, how can we know the son/daughter who is the father?

  18. Sorry but I dont agree. Didn't first wife leave you when you married your second wife. You might enjoy polygamy but it has broken lives of many women as they cannot even comprehending sharing their husband with someone else. A woman cannot be forced into such a marriage – can she be forced to accept such a marriage?
    Nasima

  19. السلام عليكم يا اخي
    You misunderstood the Surah of Alnesa,polygamy has clear conditions in Islam that men just don't pay attention to the limits that Allah put for it,moreover Allah has mentioned He has not put for a man 2 hearts in his chest, So wait for His punishment in dooms day, as some men take what they wish from Quran
    ا

  20. Polygamy is the only way for the widows, divorcees and ageing girls to have a respectable position in the society.

  21. i dont agry with that only i agry is if its a war and woman kids are suffieng thats defent story like our messinger said you must ask you first wife if the first wife not going to be happy messinger says clear then stick with one wife clear . i am muslim as well

  22. It's not accepted when Western men have affairs and secret families either.  It's all deplorable and illegal so your argument is weak at best.

  23. Now women also earn more…. can she support more men by marrying multiple men at the same time….. because of divorce rate of men? In India, santal tribal women marry 5 men…. what about rich islam women?

  24. when you speak you keep on closing eyes and not seeing the audience with confidence….. shows your status …. why are you lying and misguiding people….. where you comfortable answering this question… I believe no.. no.. but muslims will say yes all the time….. no other choice for them….. because the religious text says so….

  25. The answer should have been be a sunna and practice polygomy it as it is a blessing….. 'allah will take care" what happened to that statement…? Why are you justifying with american president and france PM, you are talking about quran and justifying with reasons of irrelevant things….. lies.

  26. christian prince challenges people like you to defend believes like polygomy….. why dont you watch his youtube videos….. you are misguiding everyone…… pure trouble I know you have 2 wives….. you should have shared your experience….. of polygomy. how did you end by saying no to polygomy…. Pure lies. so sad..

  27. Muslim = I will not think…..(if some one said 'allah yu akbar' or insha allah). Dont be so blind… people say insha allah and do many wrong things…. you should analyse things using your brain…. judgement is based on your everyday independent decisions and behaviour made by you….. do not limit yourself when some one says allah yu akbar or insha allah…

  28. He shudhv inspired the men to revive this sunnah and help widowed or other lonely women by marrying more than once. He instead discouraged them and brought in the jealous and financial aspect of it which obviously can b conquered with taqwa or islah of man and women involved.

  29. So a women has to share her husband with up to 3 other women. That's what a call fair.

  30. Simple, Don do it, you will brake first or second wife, his advice is wonderfull. One sensible thing he said.

  31. Assalamualaikum my dear brothers and sisters in Islam it is true it is Halal in Islam to have a second wife but you have to understand you have to be very equal between them personally I do agree with the second wife

  32. polygamy is a test of Iman to both man and women.
    For women she has to be kind of heard to other wife of her husband she has to accept Allah weal .
    For man he has responsibility to his family and Allah. He has to be a very good man to perform his responsibility.

  33. I'm a British Muslim woman and would consider polygamy. I'm saying this because of life experience and 💯agree that if women were to reconsider their viewpoint on marriage (which is deeply rooted in Christianity) social harmony would be created. Simply put women could bounce off one another but there needs to be respect, personal growth and awareness on the woman and man's behalf.

  34. POLYGAMY IS IMMORAL WHATEVER ONE SAYS. I personally I find it exciting to practice polygamy but How will I feel if my wife does the same?????

  35. Dear Brothers and Sisters,

    We must remember that modernists who criticize the ruling that allows men to have 1-4 wives have double standards and their opinion is drowning in a swamp of hypocrisy for example – they think open relationships without marriage (no responsibility) is acceptable and relationships before marriage (again, no responsibility) is acceptable and how many relationships do these modernists/materialists have before they get married or even IF they get married at all?,w and how many have the accident of pregnancy or even worse take the pill to avoid pregnancy all together, and we all know that pill hosts all sorts of symptoms so why should a women have to deal with all of those health risks just because those who they sleep with are irresponsible. It is called boyfriend and girlfriend because it irresponsible; rather be men and women not boys and girls! Western double standards, they have no legs to stand on when it comes to arguing ethics and morality.

  36. Hmmmmm I'm in the wrong building, I was looking for the study group about Jesus being the Son of God! Didn't mean to interrupt your polygamy party….. Shalom!

  37. This is total nonsence please dont teach & take mankind in different dirctions. Please watch christian prince utube vedios & try to contact them to clear all the doubts. Via quran its completly exposed.

  38. I have enough problem with 1 wife..imagine the freaming headache and drama!! If I can turn time back, I will never marry, I will just spent my life in work and mosque and gym…end of story

  39. in muslim world, Muslim women are against polygamy till they get divorced, widowed, etc. and their clock start ticking, then they will suddenly are all for polygamy!

  40. I don't the answer, first he said it is a gift ( men's are happy), later on he said don't do it,( women's are happy) he means if you do.. It will not be gift any more, you have pay the prize for the gift.
    In the West speakers will answer that satisfies both man and women.. They are unable to speak truth, when it is related to women in some situations, as they afraid of them.

  41. He was expecting more of a solutions through Islam, than your advice which is not beneficial to any person who wants to have more than 1 wife.
    He was trying to save himself from sinning, but unfortunately in west some sins can be accepted as trends or as culture or as lifestyle of the country. But practicing Islam will be shameful or backward.

  42. All these men that talk about having more than one wife none of them are attractive this one talking look like a wolf

  43. This man will not go to heaven; he has excessive desires for female flesh and he has not the discipline to refuse it, instead he looks for an excuse to allow him to indulge in his depravity. A fool, and the day of reckoning he cannot escape, you reap what you sow.

  44. I disagree, this was not the advice of Muhammad (SAW)…. The Qur'an is relevant for all time. If ALLAH (SWA) made something lawful, there's benefit in it…. Don't doubt the wisdom of ALLAH (SWA). Prophet Muhammad (SAW) was quoted saying "I pray part of the night, I sleep part of the night. I fast part of the day, and I break my fast at the end of my day, and I marry women. So whoever turns away from my practice, is not considered a follower of mine." There's no room to debate this topic… It's been addressed by ALLAH'S messenger (SAW)

  45. Polygamy isn’t allowed in the west…. then why do it illegally??Have one wife and be content with it. Plus life in the west is very expensive.

  46. Any woman that is reading this please pay attention. How a person FEELS does not make an issue right or wrong. Society has a problem of too many single, unmarried women. This is a solution. Can you provide an alternative solution?

  47. This vile ideology and its adherents must be erradicated from Christendom like the festering infection on humanity that it is.

  48. But.. some of the Mormons sects have several wives. In Canada there is a sect of Mormons that practice polygamy. Also, have you seen the reality show : sister wives? Cody is the husband to 4 wives. They are called modern Mormons. He is suing some people because his family had some problems with some people. He is taking his case to the supreme court to see if they can legalize plural marrieges in the USA. I think eventually is going to happen. I am not for polygamy because that is not part of my culture or belief system but I think people have the right to freedom of religion as long as things are done appropriately, with love and respect. This Mormon family and other Mormon families will continue to take their cases to court. I thin Cody's wives are good people and they help each other. Each one has a separate place. There was another group of Mormons men that went to jail because the men were abusive with very young girls. Not all Mormons are like that. I have to say that Muslims and Jewish people do have very good laws that protect women involved in plural marrieges. Christians like some Mormon churches do not have to many laws that protect women who are involved in a plural marriege as a result, there is the potential for abuse. Other Christian denominations do not believe in polygamy. There are only a few mormon sects that allow polygamy. I would suggest for you to watch sister wives reality show. Cody is the husband and the wives are Mari, Christin, Janelle and Robyn.

  49. IF ONE MAN HAS 4 WIVES AND 3 MEN HAVE NONE. YOU CORRUPT THEIR LONLINESS AND MAKE HATERS OUT OF THEM FOR YOUR FALSE RELIGION…TOTALLY SATAN…….ISLAM MUST DIE ……..

  50. IF YOU THINK YOU NEED 4 WIVES YOU NEED A JOB TO PASS YOUR TIME…..ITS ADULTRY  DEATH BY GOD…..ISLAM HAS NO BALANCE ALL SATAN…

  51. Polygamy:
    1. Confers more responsibilities on men
    2. Duty of equal treatment
    3. To take the responsibility that no woman to become public property.
    4. To protect the Dignity of woman
    5. It is not mandatory to marry more than one.

    If anyone marry more than one and can't care them equally in all respect hr will go to hell

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