How Social Media affected our marriage | Gone Wrong – IMFL ( Ep:15 )


hi guys welcome to this week’s IMF L as
usual I’m joined by my lovely husband hello
he’s being a bit more romantic today today we want to talk about how social
media has affected our relationship so if you’re interested in listening to
that stay tuned yeah so welcome back guys
introduce yourself Richard alone to do super what do I say though I’ve been
introduced so many times on this channel it’s me it’s me again back into it cool
so how is social media affected our relationship okay let me start over one
of the biggest problems that I’ve had with you Richard is that sometimes
you’re on the laptop for ages and ages and ages and like you don’t pay me any
attention so that sometimes if I come to not ask you a question you say that oh
yeah let me finish or let me do this and then before you know it you’re carried
away you’re doing other things and then I don’t feel like you’re not paying me
any attention so that’s one of the things that I have an issue about would
you have to save you well I see well I didn’t think it was a sort of defendant
plaintiff sort of thing but um seeing as we go in there let’s talk about it right
because first we talk about social media okay she said I’m on my laptop meaning
I’m not on social media my laptop so that means I’m working
Facebook tab open and other things football as well as everything else
you’re doing okay that could be so which one is the social I’m confused
I thought we were going to be talking about social media today I’m just
expressing one of the concerns I’ve had with regards to social media there were
times when you’re in your lap so yes you may be working but you’re doing other
things as well so I just feel like you don’t give me enough attention okay well
these are some of the joys of being a pastor because you don’t have a set time
right where you’re working so like when people go to work 9:00 to 5:00
they come back right mine is a bit different in that I go in and out in and
out in an arc could be going up to 12 o’clock she comes from work during a set
time what time do you normally come back home do you know that but it does change
because sometimes she does tutoring after after work and all of that so she
does her nine hours 10 hours whatever that shift is comes home I’m doing my
nightmare and she has a problem right I don’t complain about the 9 hour
timeframe that I don’t get attention thank you so I’m at work see now you
guys what I’m trying to say is yeah all right this is okay I go to what you’re
right nine hours ten hours sometimes even 11 hours if we I didn’t travel yeah
but the point of the matter is if I’m doing 9 9 to 11 hours lesson and I leave
home that lets say half 6:00 in the morning can’t you get up and start your
day out crossed 6:00 in the morning so that by Lightcraft 6 7 o’clock in the
evening we’ll both me we can spend some time with the kids put them into bed and
then have like some pastime isn’t that what most which is which is what happens
most times anyway but she won’t remember those days I for social media I’m about
to press stop but it’s become a pressing issue okay how is the social media let’s
go back to Drew book let’s go back to the drawing board actually stick to the
main the main thing right Instagram Instagram yeah Instagram yeah I have a
big problem of Instagram what because why
is all personal acts pictures so a person I could take 10 selfies of her in
the same position right just bang bang bang bang and I wonder why do you got
same same picture in the same position right so she lacks pictures and I
understand that right however she’s the sort that will go on
Instagram and she would see one picture and then keep on scrolling look at
another picture keep on scrolling and the next thing you know she’s on
Instagram for about an hour at least now when you’re talking to her she’s talking
to you through the phone right yeah yeah so you don’t know if she’s talking to
you it more she’s talking to Instagram right or if she’s listening to you or
listening to Instagram the worst part of it is when actually scrolling she starts
laughing to herself no well you know they can make noises right but a boy
should be laughing to herself while she’s growing fur and you think what is
she laughing at and he asked about me nothing so this is this is my first
problem right Instagram I think I’ve got problem with Instagram I’ve got problem
with my wife using Instagram and the way she handles Instagram so that’s my first
one as you can see it’s actually about social media all right all the same yeah
so obviously you have had issues in the past I think you should have made that
case that it’s true it’s not the issue it’s not it’s not easier in terms of how
many pictures and stuff I take I think there’s a lot of people in that boat
it’s maybe it’s just a woman thing I don’t know perhaps if there are even men
out they’ve had this issue but you know you take quite a few selfies because you
want a choice so that you put the best one up and I think there’s nothing wrong
now in position different pose you’ve got good size
like make sure you get the best one with your good side sort things aside that
obviously like you’re saying previously I did have like issues trying to curb
how much time I spent on Instagram because you watch something then you see
somebody else and then you’ll go on their feed or their page and check them
out and before you know you get carried away and these things do happen I think
there are a lot of people who are watching us today that might have that
same problem so the only sort of advice I will give with that is set yourself a
time frame when you go on Instagram so that you don’t exceed that time and in
like what actually worked for me I don’t even know what works you stopped for a
while you stopped actually going on Instagram
yeah I didn’t delete my channel you get it I think actually you stepped up your
Instagram usage when you started this channel yeah and and obviously you’ve
been very well handled that very well in which I think long may it continue and I
find that if you’re constantly posting as well you’re gonna keep going in there
during the day to check how many likes you’ve got a stuff like that but
obviously we’re not defined by how many likes we gets often I so important to
mention as well okay what else my social media is she you can
see because then it’s gonna make it seem like because I don’t really have much
social media issues what do you mean yeah this isn’t a social media issue but
I’m still gonna bring out the video so part let’s keep with the flood phone
call on this Richard is always on the phone like
always on the phone and then you can be on the phone for like a good two hours
oh the truth when you let me just know your posture but there are some issues
that need to bring out you do them so you could be on the phone for about two
hours and then also be like why are you always on the phone you know what was it
just talking to one person I’ll suck it to several teeth exactly and then you’ll
be like and what’s your problem with me being on the phone this is part of my
job in like my most hate you phrase this is part of
my job I get that you’ve gotta cool people and that’s obviously being a
minister looking after penance or and stuff like that you’ve got make a lot of
calls but I feel like from when I have to like shout for you when dinner’s
ready and I’ve got clear that three times just still on the phone and then
sometimes you’re commonly you’ll be making signs at me like I’m come being
exact stops out in that really gets in me I just think you know you need to
know sort of went out sometimes it’s heartening we’re still making calls I
yeah there’s more cutoff limiter yeah but Richard M it’s my time you’ve
been working all day so half-10 pay me some attention
Oh God said who is he calling at a half tell me it’s not I’m good the hours I
get that you’re a pastor yeah but you know you’ve got a habit limit okay
past 10 p.m. I won’t answer any phone calls or make phone calls perhaps I only
make text messages or send text messages or how everyone won’t put it I think
that that’s a bit more appropriate I know what’s the matter how often is this quantify in a week how often times after
10:30 p.m. so even sillier obviously she’s a baby
so she hasn’t quite gotten into a routine yeah
so we debate sort of around 9:00 to 10:00 sometimes she goes to bed at 7:00
but then may wake up at half 9:00 my point is what time right do I have these
calls and how does till you go to bed of course it has the point is right I can
have a whole week no cause after 10:30 I can have one day one call after 10:30
and she’ll be like this always happens you’re always on the phone after 10:30
right and she’ll start right with all of that the point is yeah I’m the sole
person that at times especially because it was travelling I do
the time that I’ll come back or I’ll finish a set amount of hours or I’ll go
to particular service I’ll come back no particular callbacks that I need to make
right I need to make those callbacks before they don’t so I make those
callbacks before day dawn so you’re talking like 10:30 11:00 p.m. okay but
maybe it’s my it’s my user name dawn right but a point is some calls are
urgent and they need to be returned so I return those course right I think we’ve
learned to deal with this thing we would like to deal with this thing so I don’t
know what you’re on you want to come and pour it on the game that I got a point to what we should change it’s a things
we argue about because this is why you’re bringing that this is a different
video things we argue about is a different video but these are clearly
arguing about something in what you’re arguing about
billeting so what’s the point exactly I can’t change that right I need so
return calls I need to return calls which I do that’s one thing that’s why I
asked her how often is she so quantified because these are actually known it’s
not very often actually it’s a occasional at most once a week at most
once a week BC so already there’s a discrepancy yeah because you exaggerated
and that’s why I stopped in the city let’s leave that one and let’s go on
something else or else was that your one but you haven’t actually said a single
point that’s about social media but I did mention that I don’t think you have
a massive problem social media sometimes you do go on Facebook and that but you
know when to stop so things so my issues are regarding other things what is this
your laptop your phone the lack of attention I get from you “Was3e Video no” (You’ve ruined the video)

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  1. Todayโ€™s episode of IMFL is on โ€œHow social media affected our marriageโ€๐Ÿ˜ฉ๐Ÿ˜ญ๐Ÿคจ…and it went totally wrong!! ๐Ÿ™ˆ it became more of an attack!!๐Ÿ’ช๐Ÿพ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜œ But it was funny so we brought it to you anyway ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜… Have a Watch!!
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  2. Omg this video is just so reall, itโ€™s quite surprising how my partner and I have this issue๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚

  3. And the final comment ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚ wasei vidรฉo nu, all my friends need to watch this๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚ itโ€™s soo true and a challenge loool

  4. Hahahaha that was a nice one. What made me laugh was the end. "Wasษ›e Video no". God bless you for sharing

  5. Honesty in this video is first class. We find it hard to have honest discussions on things that bother us – coz we want our relationships to look a certain way.

    Keep it up. Very helpful ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿพ

  6. Love the video! You guys are so hilarious ๐Ÿ˜‚ Love the honesty! Keep going! I can't wait for the next episode x ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‰

  7. Great Video Mrs ๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚ Iโ€™m pretty sure we can all relate to this topic ๐Ÿ™ˆ

  8. Lol! Although you think it went completely wrong, God used it to speak to us because it does reflect reality! Thanks for using honesty and transparency!

  9. This really happens in relationships without both sides taking it into consideration. I'm very glad you brought this topic on super yummy mummy . God richly bless you Pastor and Mrs Kwakye โค

  10. Well done!!. This topic resonates in many marriages today & we all need to make extra effort to "make time" for our spouses.
    Hubby and I recently decided to have a phone-free /tele-free evening every Wednesday…it's sooo working as we're getting to talk a lot more on those nights. Hubby thinks we should add Sunday evenings to it.
    Pstr K, I challenge ๐Ÿ’ช you to give our gorgeous Mrs K a social media free night once a week๐Ÿ˜œ. Great clip.

  11. I think 10pm should be your cut off Pastor. Unless itโ€™s a real real emergency. Very good video ๐Ÿ˜‚ love the realness guys ๐Ÿ’™

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