Inside The Plus-Sized Party Celebrating Big Bottoms | SHAKE MY BEAUTY

Havala: I really want to inspire women through the big bottom bash, showing them that they can be empowered. They can do whatever they want to do. Female Speaker: Big bottom bash you know what I’m saying. Havala: Today, it was really stressful. But it means everything. I feel like I’m really nervous and I’m really anxious, but I am also excited. It’s almost like euphoric, like the experience from last year was insane. I don’t think people even realise how, like, amazing it’s going to be. I’m Havala, and I’m the founder of Big Bottom Behaviour and Big Bottom Bash. The Big Bottom Bash was really born from the idea, I feel like I just constantly see on my feed, like these events and these parties. But I never see fat women and I never see women of colour or they’re not center, they’re not highlighted. So I basically said, I want to throw a big party where it’s plus size inclusive. This year, I think we’re going to have about 200 ladies there. So right now I’m going to kind of set up this area over here where we’re going to be making the swag bags that we’re going to hand out tomorrow. This year, our theme is all about sex positivity. And just like loving our bodies. Big Bottom Behaviour is a size inclusive apparel line that I founded in 2016. I just saw such a lack of diversity in active wear. I was really upset by the fact that I couldn’t find anything in over a size 16 or 18 to buy. And it really upset me because my sister’s plus size. I just kind of it doesn’t make sense. Like why would we demonise fat people and shame fat people. But then we don’t want to create things to inspire them, and they can feel confident in workout clothes. With the Big Bottom Bash, I really started it because of my sister. So I feel like I wanted her to always feel welcome. I wanted to create an event and a space for her where she felt free and liberated and just could be herself. And so really, I was like, I’m going to do this. It’s going to be really exciting. Okay perfect. This is cute. Havala: Everything’s kind of running on schedule, we’re going to be heading out soon. And most everything that was here was has already been loaded into the cars. I really just want to create a space that they’re going to feel energised and feel renewed, that they can take on every experience in life. Today has been absolutely incredible. It was really stressful. And we all just kind of work together to get things unloaded. So it’s just an amazing experience to just see everyone just working and doing. Female Speaker: I’ve met everybody already what’s up. Hi everyone.
Hi. I came here to be around other plus size women in the same space and wear my bikini rock out in the sun and enjoy a good time with beautiful women. And I think it’s like fun, and it’s like beautiful day out so it’s always nice to be poolside. But more importantly I think it’s kind of a safe space. I think it’s informative and necessary, and definitely fun. Where you can pretty much be yourself and see other people who who are a lot incredible. Havala: We’re going to have an amazing panel of the sex educators. It’s four amazing people. Thank you, hi, everyone.
Hi. Thanks for braving the heat, it’s hot out here. We’re all fat queer folks of colour on this panel. And so when we talk about sexuality, pleasure, intimacy. So I think for so long, I thought that because I was fat I wasn’t not allowed to be queer, like almost reserved for the skinny folks like I can’t actually have a body that’s liberated. For me my sexuality is rooted in intimacy and vulnerability. So really kind of getting into kink taught me that yeah, I have needs and this is what I want to get met. Dr. Nyrobi: So often in popular culture, women safe spaces are tested, they are ostracized, especially something like this that celebrates natural bodies and celebrates women in their natural state. And not some kind of cookie cutter thing about who and what we’re supposed to do. Ultimately, it is about what makes us happy. And I think the biggest thing I see here today is people saying, Okay, I’m going to put this swim suit on. Havala: Today was super intense and super amazing. The excitement, the love and the relationships I’ve built just in this, in these last few hours, people sharing their stories of, the way they’ve been treated as fat people and their existence and how this has altered their life. Being able to be a platform and also just all the help and the love and the care of my family and my friends and all that. It’s like, it’s hard to really express but it means everything. You are so f****g amazing and **** So amazing.
Haval: No,no. Oh my God.

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  1. Honestly I don't get what people have against events like this, it's their life and they deserve to be happy and feel beautiful! Weight doesn't define beauty!
    I myself am underweight and I get a lot of dumb comments too, why don't people just let everyone live like (s)he wants too? Where is the problem? It doesn't change anything about their life if someone is over or underweight…

    I think the party is a great idea and totally support it ☺

    Just one small critic point: you can't talk about size inclusive if you cut out thin or "normal" weight people

  2. I consider this a pitty party…a bunch or miserable bigger women who feel like outcasts (yet put themselves in this body state)

  3. I'm a plus size woman but I don't agree with celebrating this kinda thing… I gained a bunch of weight really fast from medication where I was really fit before. I used to run marathons. I am still active now but I know I FEEL my best when my weight is stable and I can run long distances.. The sad thing is these women probably don't know what it's like to be fit and at your physical peak. It's not about just looking good for me but taking care of myself.. So yeah even though I'm "plus" I don't advocate for this.. I am on my journey back to health but for that.. HEALTH. I would rather feel out of place so much so that it motivates me to get in shape, than being overly comfortable with being big and not doing anything to improve my quality of life.

  4. People today : I'm healthy as f and I'm plus size
    The same people in the future : someone die because of heart attack and obesity 🙃

  5. "you should just accept everyone the way they are"
    *While simultaneously throwing a party and group event that excludes everyone she doesn't like….. interesting.

  6. Morbidly obese isn't natural at all! I was 192lbs and wanted to cry so I changed and lost 33lbs. These ladies need to drop some major weight and I bet they would feel a lot better

  7. I know this video is about body positivity. But I can't stop thinking about how much prettier these women would be if they lost weight.

  8. Maybe… just maybe making them feel good about themselves and wanting to move more and coming out more is a good start? //PS. I'm a fat person myself

  9. Imagine if anorexic women threw a big party celebrating being anorexic and calling it their ‘natural bodies’ 🤡🤡

  10. It is always good to empower people who are underrepresented and created spaces that make those people see how important they are.

  11. I am sorry but they shouldn't celebrate unhealthy weight. Confidence is great but the health risks associated with being that size are slowly killing us as people.

  12. Women have to feel comfortable, confident and sexy how they are before they have the power to improve themselves. So no, body positivity and acceptance for plus size women isn’t “encouraging” them to be unhealthy, it’s encouraging them to be happy which in turn will help them to actually want to be healthy and love themselves even more!

  13. As most others here have said: there is a difference between bing plus size and obese. You can be plus size and beautiful yes, but its different if you are so big your health is in a danger zone.

    And don’t use the excuse that “I’m beautiful however I look! Don’t judge me!” I’m not judging you, I’m nearly saying that when you become older (around 50-60 years old) you won’t as happy. There’s a reason we don’t see many obese old people. That goes for both men and women.

    So in conclusion; you can be fat if you so wish, I won’t stop you (I don’t even know any of you lol) for being fat or getting fat tart if you so wish, all I will say is that you won’t have a healthy life later on.

    So with that I tell you goodbye and good luck.

  14. In my opinion I find bigger size people have their charms because each size of them is different and have his beauty. I know many people are complaining about health problems and that they should lose weight. Yes your body needs to be able to function well, but every person says "Go if you love your body lose some weight!" But no one ask "How come?" There is always reason why, Some people struggle years, trying hard. and lately the food out of the market is been produce by unhealthy products to keep it longer good. The food isn't the same anymore as 20years ago, even the fruit/vegatables is all made unnatural, each body of human react differently, no one is the same, and never will be, some people work years to lose weight but cant. Some just made the choice to stay more bigger size because they accepted it. So who are we to judge them and tell them what they must do? Sometimes it's okay to give advice. But media is all about skinny, looking good, making meds to lose weight, it's litteraly good business cicrle, produce unnatural food, get complications, doctors, all way around.

  15. I am confused as to how people see this as a celebration of obesity and diabetes…no where has she promoted an unhealthy lifestyle…because designing activewear for plus size women who are trying to be healthy is a promotion of obesity? I mean you can have an opinion about these ladies loving their bodies but at least make educated statements…I think its amazing that she's doing this…no one denies the effects of morbid obesity but it does not mean that you have to hate yourself while working on being a better you

  16. Some of these women are plus size but quite a few are morbidly obese if your happy about your size good on you just don't promote it as a good thing some of them need help before it becomes to late and they are bed bound

  17. i kinda agree when she said when work out clothing companies dont make plus size things.. how is someone who is 400lbs work out and lose the weight? they deserve to wear something cute as much as me, an average sized person who is healthy. i know i wanna have a cute outfit when i workout, they should be able to find sizes in their size. i know a lot of people who are very obese and are losing weight, and also trying to love their body, and i support them. [i dont support someone who is very obese and does nothing to improve their health.]

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  19. Absolutely beautiful ladies that shouldn't be shamed or treated badly but I think there's a big difference between weighing 180/200 lbs and 300+ lbs. Sure weight shouldn't be the only health indicator but being 150 lbs overweight can't be good.

  20. I have no problem with this but why they all gotta be like "safe space" when every place is pretty safe for them, like they must just feel COMFORTABLE and less judged here it doesn't affect their safety

  21. These girls are absolutely beautiful. “Morbidly obese” is an awful thing people are calling them! It shouldn’t matter what size you are to be beautiful. God made beautiful pieces of art, and by you calling them these horrible names, YOU are making fun of God’s artwork!!! Sooo some of them are bigger than others!!! Who cares! As a “stereotypical” plus size girl, I’m truly offended. WE are people, Plus size and all!!

  22. My sister ended up have type 2 diabetes and she's pretty thin. So thin people can get it too. Mostly it's fat people tho 🤷🏽‍♀️

  23. Body positivity is great, if you’re healthy. Some of these women are at such an unhealthy weight they could literally die within the next few years if they don’t change something…

  24. I think it's great to make any woman feel inspired & comfortable in her body, but being obese is extremely unhealthy & shouldn't be celebrated, but dealt with. Most these woman won't live past their 50s. Very sad.

  25. I love the comments on this video. It’s fun to see how many people are a**holes. First off no one is PROMOTING obesity, they’re just a group of women having fun.
    Secondly to promote obesity is tell everyone they should be obese. I don’t see one person doing that.
    Also there’s being concerned about someone’s health then there’s being a shaming a**hole.
    I guess some people fail to realize there are a lot of smaller people that are also extremely unhealthy.
    Mostly if seeing a larger or like some of you are putting it obese person is uncomfortable to you, look the other way and ignore like you ignore the extreme racism in this country.

  26. 5:30 Barcroft always has to include one ridiculously unnecessary shot that completely negates the supposed positive theme of the video…

  27. This is great! People in the comments love to hate. They say "oh, they're morbidly obese" but that's not what this video is about. People deserve to love themselves regardless of what they weigh.

    If you think someone deserves to hate themselves because they're "obese", the YOU need help.

  28. i get the whole body positivity thing however I feel like glorifying someone who is at an extremely unhealthy and life threatening weight is the wrong way to go about it. If some of these people continue leading the life they currently are, then they wont last very long and I don't think that is something that should be celebrated. Im not saying these people need to be stick thin or skinny at all, just healthy. So instead of encouraging this unsafe lifestyle, what about encouraging these women to treat their bodies with respect and start leading a healthier lifestyle.

  29. This is a wonderful opportunity for plus sized/BBW/SSBBW.. body positivity should be celebrated at all sizes.. Self love is the key.. and if being able to flaunt your stuff no matter what size you are is the beginning.. so let it be!!! My fluffy butt wants to be at the next one!!

  30. omgg,what the hell is that……the expression of that sick ,ugly society that teaches uglyness is beautiful somehow………these bodies are sick,mac do coke beauty lolllll

  31. A “natural size” is BMI 20. Not even 10 pounds overweight. Unless it’s muscle. Humans are built to be athletic and exercise.

  32. Just seems like a bunch of obese women who want to be able to act like thots and twerk in public. Their workshops are even about thoting.
    I can’t with this.

  33. I believe in the legend of the Blobula Herd…Legend has it that these congregations happen when human female manatee land whales get together in massive throngs that make the earth shake when they stampede. These throngs involve numbers between 10 and 15. Much larger groups are difficult to to measure because herds larger than this cause the earth's tectonic plates to sub-duct into each other, causing massive earth quakes and tsunamis. Global warming ain't got nothing on this danger!

  34. I hop[e people realize these are not natural bodys. There only a result of over abundance, its as natural as fake breasts.

  35. I am not plus size, but I want to be invited to the party. Why can't we just celebrate our feminity and freedom all shapes and sizes. We are all most likely more similar than different all shapes and sizes > I want to throw a booty bash where all the booties can come, but I don't have a pool 🙁

  36. to all the closed-minded people in the comments: There is so much more to weight than under and overeating. There are diseases, mental disorders, and just pure genetics that make it harder for a person to lose or gain weight. Rather than putting these people down and discriminating against them, it's better to accept it. If these people are happy in their skin, why should we belittle them? If they are depressed and unhappy with their weight or its a life or death situation, encourage them to change, not discriminate and bully them! Just like race, sexuality, orientation, it's not acceptable to discriminate and oppress those groups, so why shouldn't weight be the same?

  37. Some people are stressing that this is morbid obesity and that they should not be celebrating that and that instead they should be exercising but they are missing the point of why they do the party, it is for people to feel comfortable, it may not be correct to be celebrating obesity but they are trying to create an environment where they can accept themselves.Regardless of your size because all people should feel safe about themselves whether they are large or not. Some people do eat well, but they can't Lose weight because it is in their genetics.

    I am sorry if in some parts I could not express myself well but English is not my first language and I am using the translator.

  38. Big butts has been the beauty standard since like 2014 or longer so what was the purpose of this? The girl who runs this literally has the desired body in the US (naturally might I add) right now.

  39. I dont think anyone is disputing the fact that some of these ladies are unhealthy but that's beside the point, they still deserve basic respect and clothes that fit their bodies, which is what this video is about.

  40. All the bullies out to play in this comments section. Don't scroll dowen. Being hated and shunned by the whole of society is of course incredibly likely to motivate us, and not oh I don't know, cause us to be more depressed, less likely to look after ourselves and more likely to eat more.
    To the haters don't care about our health. You don't care about our lives. You don't even try to understand us. You hide behind your excuses instead of admitting that you are shallow bullies who just wish that we didn't exist. Go ooze somewhere else, and let us have this one thing.

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