Marriage Story – Laura Dern’s Monologue


You know, he can be an asshole and… I can get really pissed off and I’ll call
him on being an asshole. [Nora] I’m going to stop you there. When you do this for real, don’t ever say
that. People don’t accept mothers who drink too
much wine and yell at their child and call him an asshole. I get it. I do it too. We can accept an imperfect dad. Let’s face it, the idea of a good father was
only invented like 30 years ago. Before that, fathers were expected to be silent and absent and unreliable and selfish, and can all say we want them to be different. But on some basic level, we accept them. We love them for their fallibilities, but people absolutely don’t accept those same
failings in mothers. We don’t accept it structurally and we don’t
accept it spiritually. Because the basis of our Judeo-Christian whatever is Mary, Mother of Jesus, and she’s perfect. She’s a virgin who gives birth, unwaveringly supports her child and holds
his dead body when he’s gone. And the dad isn’t there. He didn’t even do
the fucking. God is in heaven. God is the father and God didn’t show up! So, you have to be perfect, and Charlie can
be a fuck up and it doesn’t matter. You will always be held to a different, higher
standard. And it’s fucked up, but that’s the way it
is.

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