One single mom recently decided that
any kid coming to her twin’s fifth birthday party will have
to pay a cover charge. According to the Daily Mail,
Ruma Ali invited 60 of her children’s classmates to the party and plans to
collect $10 per child at the door. It’s a door charge. Now, Rumor reportedly insisted that all
the money will go towards the parties expenses, and that each kid
will get a gift on the way out. While many parents feel like it’s the
height of rudeness to charge per child. Other parents think it’s a great idea and
are considering doing the same, so Tamara you have two beautiful boo boos. Including a five year old. Would you charge at Aidan’s party?
>>Okay, if I am honest, I went hard for
my children’s first birthday party. It was really expensive. It was so expensive that I told myself
I am never ever ever doing that again until they are 16 years old.
>>Right. There are ways that you can have really
cost-effective birthday parties. You don’t have to charge
to go to a birthday party. I think that that’s unfair. Why am I gonna pay for
something that you invited me to? I think that,
>>[APPLAUSE]>>It’s true! All you have to do is
keep the party simple. Kids only care about cake,
ice cream, games, and their favorite friends and
they’re gonna have a blast. I mean, there’s water balloon toss games,
there’s potato sack, I mean that’s so [CROSSTALK]
>>Is it more of a competition thing between parents?
>>Well, and that’s the thing. I believe it’s up to you as a parent,
if you wanna spend a lot of money, you’re gonna spend a lot of money. And I think moms, they sometimes wanna outdo the other moms.
>>That’s what I’m saying.>>The birthday party really isn’t about the child themselves.
>>Right.>>I even see times where moms do the birthday party really for themselves.
>>That’s what I’m saying.>>Like the color coordination, the beautiful centerpieces and stuff
that the kids wouldn’t even remember. However, I remember when I was growing
up we didn’t have a lot of money and I remember my mom having to ask me “ok
Kong” Kong means daughter in Vietnamese. Who do you want to have there? And she asked me, and I would kind of go,
My God, I love everybody, I love Sam, I love Frankie, I love Ronald, why do I love all guys?
>>[LAUGH]>>But I had a lot of friends, and then she would say, pick your favorite
five, or your favorite eight kids. And when I picked them, it was fine. But then later on as my brothers came into
the family, we made more money and so they were allowed to have
maybe the whole class come. And I realized that my
mom had to budget and had to cut corners because we
would go to Chucky Cheese and she’d have to give every kid a roll of-
>>Chucky Cheese is great->>For the tokens. Yes, but everything did cost money. And it depends, it’s relative, right? How much everything costs? So I don’t think it’s
right to charge people to be invited.
>>But I think there’s ways to go around it,
even maybe asking to help as a pot luck. Maybe all the parents could bring
something if you know that price is a problem. I think she did go all out. She invited 60 kids to her parties,
but she has two kids, she has twins.>>A lot of kids.>>And they had different classrooms, but you don’t have to invite everybody. Not everybody is a friend.
>>[APPLAUSE]>>That’s the thing. They just want their favorite friends.
>>Man man, you guys. [APPLAUSE]
>>I’m on the opposite side of this one.
>>Okay.>>I was like, sounds fine to me as long as you give the parents a heads-up that,
hey it’s gonna cost $10. I think it’s rude that if they arrive and
then you’re like, I need $10.>>Right, give them a heads-up.>>But it’s like a field trip. If you give somebody a heads-up,
and you’re like, hey I don’t have the money to pay for
like the food, the cake it’s expensive if everybody
can just pitch in, it’s like going to a birthday dinner as an adult.
>>Yes!>>And everybody pitches in and the birthday girl doesn’t pay,
to me it feels the same. The other thing is, someone said does that
make some people feel embarrassed cuz they’re asking for
money if they don’t have money. And my thing is, why would you let your kids hang out with
somebody that would make fun of them? Or that isn’t close enough like family
where if you needed the help you could be like hey, things are a little
tight right now doing something for the kids but I like don’t have money for
the cake or the food to feed all the kids. [CROSSTALK] pitch in.