WEDDING & MARRIAGE Vocabulary in English


Hi. James from EngVid. We are gathered here
today for this thing called “life”. That’s a line from Prince. And I have to apologize
because one of you out there said that my song was not music from Star Wars, but from
Mozart. My apologies. But I’m still using it because it sounds, you know, like something
horrible is about to happen, and it is. I’m going to teach you a lesson on weddings. And
depending on who you are, it’s a good thing or a bad thing. But anyway, here we go. One of
the things we’re going to talk about — we’ll talk about the rituals of weddings, and I’m
going to give you some vocabulary to go with that. And just to start off the show — I
don’t know who this guy is, but anyway. He’s saying, “Will you marry me” to this beautiful
young girl. And she’s saying, “Yes. I will. Is that a diamond ring” — another word for
“wedding band” — “or Mr. E?” We’ll find out. Let’s talk about weddings. Okay? Well, before
we go there, here’s a little joke I’d like to put to you. There are two things you will
be invited to. And both of them signal the death of something or the death of life. Okay?
The first is a funeral. And I did a video on that earlier. Go find it. That’s where
my friend corrected me. And the second one is a wedding. It is the death of your single
life. So what we’re going to do is I’ll do the magic click, take a step out, and then we’re
going to start the lesson. Are you ready? Let’s go on our journey. “And dearly departed” — sorry. Marriage. I
keep forgetting because that death thing keeps coming to my mind. Anyway. So what we
want to look at is — I told you I would give you some vocabulary and explain a little bit,
give you a little history. It’s not too much, but it will help you to remember and understand why
we do what we do. Ready? Let’s go to be board. Mr. E is gone, but his presence will not be
missed. Okay in fact, I’ll put a little E here. We’re going to talk about the engagement.
Okay? There you go, Mr. E. He’s not looking too happy about being in this particular situation.
We say the wedding is a particular day, and it’s true. In fact, there are special names
for weddings when you’re getting married. But before that we’ve — I consider the wedding
starting with the engagement because that’s the first time you make a promise to join —
look at that. Engagement. You get a ring. Surprise, surprise. You get that engagement
ring, and you say, “Will you marry me?” The person says yes. You put it on. Boom. You’re
fianc�s. You’ve started the first step to getting married. A little thing about wedding rings. I’m not
sure if you know about it, so I’ll just take a good look at it. Do you know what this symbolizes?
Well, boys and girls, in the old days, the wedding band — that’s another word for “wedding
ring”, the “wedding band” — the wedding ring told other men that this woman was taken. So
when the woman would put it on, other men would go, “Oh, no she’s off the market.” In other
words, “You can’t date her anymore because somebody else has bought the woman.” Glad
those days are over. Yeah? You just bought a diamond ring, son. It’s not over. So engagement.
It starts with a ring. And just before the wedding, people — you know, these are old,
kind of rituals or things we used to do. Young people would get together. They wouldn’t have
anything. They might have lived on a farm. So they needed to get things to start their
new life together, and not everyone had a lot of money. We’re talking of the times where
people were kings and queens and princes. So the poor didn’t have a lot. So when you
would have a bridal shower or a stag night, well, the bridal shower was to get gifts to
help the couple start their new life together. I mean, really, this is about 150 years old,
but it’s still long because you’re young, son. Not like me. Okay. So the bridal shower,
if you get invited to that, cha-ching! It’s the beginning of what I call the “wedding
money machine”. You have to show up with a gift for the bride because she’s starting a
new life and you should pay for it. That’s right. Unlike the bachelor party — old guys
call it “stag night” because stags have, you know, the big buck. It’s sort of like a horror
story — deer. You know Bambi’s mommy? Well, Bambi’s daddy would be a stag. He would be
big and strong. It would be your final night to be a big, strong man because now, you’re
about the get married. I love it. One ring shall control them all. Anyway. So the stag night was a man saying goodbye
to being a man and now to be a husband. And the bridal shower was the time for the woman
to the bow, “Give me the goods. Give me the good stuff.” Okay? So
she’d be getting stuff. Now, let’s talk about the wedding itself.
Because this happens, and there’s a period of time in between. And it’s called your “engagement
period” until we get to the wedding day. Now, here’s what’s funny. Here’s the funny thing.
On the wedding day, it’s actually a whole day, but the wedding really consists of a
few minutes, okay? Now, on the wedding day, you’re going to have a wedding party. I know
I made it sound like a funeral, but there is actually a wedding party. It’s not what
you’re thinking. The wedding party are, sort of — today, we call it, like, your “posse”
or your “group” or — what was that program called? The guy had a — well, whatever. You’ve
got your tribe with you. The woman had what’s called the “bridesmaids”, and the men had what’s
called the “groomsmen”. Now, the bridesmaids are made up of her good friends or women that
are important in her life. And the groomsmen are made up for the man of all the important
men in his life. Okay? So this could be his extra brothers. And this could be
her sisters and her best friends. Now, of the people you like the best — you
will love this part — you have your maid of honor. It could be your mother or sister,
but really a sister or your best, best friend. And the best man would probably be your favorite
brother or your best friend. These are the people that head these groups, like, the leaders
of these particular groups. And then, you have the bride and the groom. The groom — some
of you don’t know this word because it only exists for one day in your life. It’s when a
man is about to be married. On his wedding day, he is a groom. While the bride is only
a bride on her wedding day. Okay? And this only lasts for about a couple of hours because
you have to understand after they exchange rings — that’s what this is for. Okay? When
they exchange the rings, they suddenly become “husband and wife”. So you have a few hours
in your life that you will be a bride or a groom. “Bride” is for girl;
“groom” is for boy. Okay? So this is the wedding party, not the party
you’re thinking. Sorry. But when you’re invited to be on the wedding party, it’s an honor
because they’re saying you’re special. That’s why I said it’s like your sister or your best
friend or your brother or your best friend. You’re being given
an honor, okay? A woman has to wear a special dress on her
wedding day, and it’s called the “wedding gown”, sometimes called the “wedding dress”
now. Why am I mentioning this? Guys just get to wear a suit, so it’s not a big deal. A suit
or a tuxedo. The wedding gown has a specific thing or meaning. And many women search for
months to get the perfect dress. You see, the wedding gown came back — this is also
about 150 years old. Because it started after — because a long time ago, women couldn’t
afford to buy one dress to wear for one day and throw in the garbage or put away. This was
just crazy. But about 150 years ago, they started getting special dresses only for the
wedding. And they call it the “wedding gown”. Now, the wedding gown was supposed to be in
white. And it used to come with a veil. A “veil” is something to cover the face. And
it was for innocence and purity and secrecy because she was a virgin. And she would be
veiled until revealed to her husband. Okay? Now, in the Western world, white meant innocence
and purity. But if you go to the Middle East or in Asia, it was in red and orange. Now,
you might think that that woman must have had lots and lots of sex, but that’s not why.
You see, for Asians — so if you’re wondering why in your country — you’re like, “Oh, my
god, our women are so dirty.” It’s not. It’s meant for festivity, to be fun and have fun
and be exciting. So they’re saying you’re entering a new phase of your life where — a
phase means period — where you’re going to be having children and family and it’s great
and it’s fun. So they have orange and red. Or the red is to kill your husband in ten
years. No. Orange and red. While the white in the West was for
innocence and purity. Okay? So she wears this dress; they exchange vows;
they get married. Now, she says, “I do”. He says, “I do”. And that’s where, you know,
your vows and your promises — we’ve got it up here. So come over here in a second. After that,
you get invited to the reception. Cha-ching. More money, people, more money. Okay? I talked
about up here the bridal shower. On the reception, you get a free dinner — dinner, okay? In
the Western world, it’s usually chicken and beef with some kind of mash and rice and vegetables.
I’ve been to a few. And then, you must bring a gift of equal or greater value. Isn’t that
nice? Okay. Oh, and before I forget, pops or dads out there, if you’re — you know,
girls, bring your father in to watch this video. You should. And explain to him that
in the Western world, the father pays for all of this. So if I don’t bring a gift, it’s
a free meal on him. Food for thought. Okay? So these are — well, this is how the wedding
day basically proceeds. Okay? This is your basic wedding outline. But let’s talk about
some of the rituals there. I gave you one idea with the wedding gown, why people wear
the colors they wear, right? Or why they wear a veil. But let’s look at some of the rituals.
There are four that are involved in a wedding that I found are important and
you want to pay attention to. The wedding vows. These are the promises people
make to each other about what they will and won’t do in marriage. Love, honor, and obey
because I’m a dog. I’m joking, but I mean, this is the basic one in the Western world.
We say we’ll love, honor, and obey you. And usually, by the way, it’s for the women. The
men don’t say that. But the vows, really, especially when they’re important, people
make their own now, which is really cool. And they say the promises they want to do in
the wedding to make it — or the marriage to make it happy. Right? And joyful for both
people. And I think that’s kind of cool, don’t you? Obey me. Next, exchanging the rings. I gave you a little
bit when I said it was to show that a man had bought a woman, right? I didn’t finish it,
but it’s kind of cool. In other countries — I think it’s Russia — they wear it on the
right finger. In the Western world, especially Germany, England, France and whatnot, we wear
it on the left. You might wonder why. This is from the Romans. You see, they believed
there are a vein — which is what carries blood — that came from the heart that was
directly linked to your ring finger. So when they put it on, it was to capture the love
from your heart in the ring. Kind of cool, huh? Stick with me. I’ll teach you a few things.
So now you know why someone wears their wedding band or engagement ring on their left. It’s
to capture all that love that goes directly to their heart. Okay? At the end of our weddings, we usually throw
rice. Everyone throws rice. Not so much now because it was killing birds. I’m serious.
True story. We were killing birds. We’d be throwing them up. We’d go, “You’re married”, and
the birds would fall from the sky. “They’re celebrating, too. They’re dying.” But the
throwing of rice or throwing of confetti or paper in the air after a wedding, if you always
wonder why in our movies they get married, they throw things in the air, it was for fertility.
They thought if they threw a lot of stuff in the air, the people walking under it would
have many, many babies, and it was a good thing. You like that? Yeah. It’s cool, huh?
I’m about the end it on that. “Confetti, yay. I’m getting married.” Okay? But before I do, because this is an international
school that we have here, I want to bring out one more which I found interesting: the
breaking of the glass. Sometimes, you watch North American movies, and you’ll see some
couples go [sound of glass breaking], and they break glass. And you think, “All of them
do this.” Actually, this is a Jewish tradition. Just as I mentioned that Middle Eastern people
have different colored wedding gowns or they wear veils, in the Jewish tradition, they
break glass. They dance, and they break the glass. And it’s to show that this is some
serious stuff. “This is serious business. So serious, we’re going to break some glass
in here.” Really, they do. I’m not making this up. I wish I could. I hope this video has brought you and I close
together and made a great relationship. Come, Mr. E, up there. See? We’re engaged now in
conversation and learning, and this is a good thing. Anyway. I’ve got to go. What I would
like to say now is the usual. I want you to go to my triple W, www.engvid.com, “Eng” as
in English, “vid” as in “video”, where you can learn about weddings and funerals, and
other of life’s interesting little acts. Have a good one. It’s
been a pleasure.

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Comments

  1. I like ur lessons ,, btw I'm from middle east and I haven't heard about any bride wearing non white wedding gown

  2. In the middle east the bride wears a white dress too and in egypt the groom and the bride share in paying the wedding stuf and wedding party but in other middle easr countries rhe groom has to pay for the wedding

  3. I am using YouTube around 8 years and you the first teacher and video which I clicked on subscribe. Funny I learn a lot

  4. I am using YouTube around 8 years and you the first teacher and video which I clicked on subscribe. Funny I learn a lot

  5. in Turkey, some eastern parts of Turkey, groom has to break the neck of a pigeon before wedding night to show that he is strong and brave enough

  6. Hi James,
    You are great but allow me to correct one mistake. According to the Jewish tradition in a religious wedding (most of them are religious) during the wedding ceremony, conducted by a rabbi, there is a tradition to commemorate the destruction of the temple in Jerusalem. So after the prayers and exchanging rings etc. The groom says if I forget thy Jerusalem (the temple) I'll forget my right hand and then he steps on/ breaks a glass. Only then he is allowed to kiss the bride and… let the band sing Mazal Tov (congratulations for good luck).
    Thank You

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