Why Are We So Lonely? – Glad You Asked S1

Alex:I was supposed
to meet a friend here today,
but I think he’s ten minutes
late right now and I don’t see him,
so I hope I didn’t get ghosted.( ringing )Operator:
Your call has been forwarded
to an automated
voice messaging system.
Alex:Almost everyone knows what
it feels like to be lonely.
( groans )And in 2018, nearly halfthe U.S. population reportedfeeling lonely regularly… Woman:
Loneliness is a major threat
to Americans’ well-being.…leading some experts
to say that we’re actually in the middle
of a loneliness epidemic. Woman:This rises to the level
of true public health concern.
And we often make
assumptions about the things
that make us lonely.But research has shown
that the amount of time that
we spend with other people…
Did this make you less lonely?…and the quality
of our social skills
don’t really make a difference.Loneliness may be a greater fear
than death.So why do so many
of us feel lonely?
And what should we do
about it?( music playing )So, how many friends
do you have?
Like, close friends. Probably, like, 10 or 15
really close friends, – who I talk to weekly,
at least.
– Wow. Christophe:
But I do feel that changing. – Got out of college
pretty recently…
– Ahh, I see. …and a lot of these people I’m starting to not see
that much anymore. Alex:
When I got out of college,
I would say I had – eight to nine good friends.
– Yeah. And out of those
eight to nine,
only one is left. As a guy myself,
I’m more reluctant
to reach out – and put myself out there.
– Yeah. Christophe:From the studies
that I’ve read,
there isn’t
a conclusive difference
in loneliness rates
between men and women.
But there is some evidence
that women are more comfortable admitting that they’re lonely. Alex: And loneliness is
something I’ve dealt with – all my life.
– Yeah. So I’m gonna take it on.
I’m gonna go online, see if I can make
new friends using an app, and maybe that’s gonna
help out with the loneliness. I swiped through,
like, 200 dudes. – Really? And he was the one?
– And he was the one. So I’m going to a restaurant
to meet with Maximilian. – I’m a little nervous.
– What are you nervous about? – Will we click?
– Right. Just be yourself. Smile. Not like that.
That’s– – See you, dude.
– Stay dry. Hey. You’re Alex, right? – Are you Maximilian?
– Yes. – Good to meet you, man.
– Good to meet you, man. – After you.
– Thanks, brother. Yeah, dating is normal
using the app. But making friends
using the app is kind of– people see it as weird,
I guess. Everything about
what we’re doing is weird. Yeah. Yeah, yeah, exactly. What do you do
when you’re feeling lonely? I don’t know.
I can’t answer that, dude.
I don’t know. I just feel that,
to be totally honest. A couple weeks ago,
I was really vibing
with this guy ’cause we shared
so much in common. I was just like,
“Hey, we should hang out,” like in the middle
of a conversation. And he was kind of
taken back by it,
I could tell. Like, he wasn’t disgusted,
but I just feel like
he’d never been– – nobody’s ever
said that to him.
– Oh, no! Like, “I’ve never heard
somebody say that before.” And it takes a bit of time
to break down those
barriers, you know? It is a little more difficult because it’s, like,
are you gonna give up
that masculinity by becoming friends
with this person? That’s the weird thing, is I have no trouble
making friends. I’m a very open person. I really just want
a tight-knit group of friends. It takes a lot of time
to get out and build
those relationships. All right,
good meeting you. – It was good meeting you, Alex.
– I’ll be in touch. The term “loneliness epidemic” suggests that this is
some modern crisis that is just starting
to effect us right now. But the roots of this problem actually go back much further
than you might think.In the late 1700sat the start of
the Industrial Revolution
in Europe
and the United States,
people started to move out
of small communities
and into cities
to work in factories.
It’s around then
that you first start to see the use of the word loneliness
in English printed works. Loneliness became the first word to describe the experience
of being alone. Before that, the closest thing
that we had was “oneliness.” But that just referred
to the physical state
of being alone. It wasn’t until the 1970s that experts started
to describe loneliness as a public health crisis, like in these American
newspaper clippings where they describe
a “Loneliness Epidemic
In Our Time.” All these headlines are talking
about this loneliness epidemic in the same way
that you would see media coverage
talk about this today. So, for example,
this one says, “There is an epidemic
of loneliness in America today
that drives people to seek companionship in laundromats,
shopping centers, Weight Watchers and bars.” That’s from 1973. Articles like these
were reacting to the start of some major societal shifts. Like, when we get married
in the U.S., people have been getting married later and later since the 1950s. And young unmarried people
report feeling more lonely than their married peers. And organized community groups
like church have become
less prominent than ever. Today, a quarter
of the U.S. population is unaffiliated
with organized religion versus just
five percent in 1972. And those who attend religious
services less frequently
tend to be lonelier. So we can’t say
that we’re lonelier than ever, because we haven’t really
had a consistent way to measure loneliness over time. And we can’t say
whether those social changes have caused higher rates
of loneliness today. But we do know that more people are spending big chunks
of their lives isolated from
close-knit communities. That’s important
because our brains are wired to want those social circles. There’s one theory that could
help us understand the impact that has on loneliness. There’s this idea
that there is a cognitive limit on the number of people
that humans can have, basically, a meaningful,
social relationship with. That idea is known as
Dunbar’s number. The guy who came up with this,
his name is Robin Dunbar. What he did to find that number
is he basically looked at average brain size
of different primates and average social group size. And he made sort of trend line
based off of that and extrapolated that humans
probably are meant to be in a group of about 150. And when he double-checked
that with modern hunter-gatherer societies
at the time, it totally checked out.
The average number
was about 148. – Hunter-gatherer societies
were usually 150 people?
– Small. – Yeah.
– Huh. But Dunbar’s number
is really a set of numbers, so there are a whole bunch
of subgroups within this. The first number is five. This is kind of like
the family and friends that you were absolutely
closest with. You tend spend about 40%
of your social time with these five people. I wanna know
who these people are… – Really?
– …for you. Yeah. You’re gonna make me
namecheck them? So then, moving up
from this level is what Dunbar calls sort of your sympathy group
of 15 people. These are the people
I would allow to see me cry. One level up from that
is what Dunbar calls
the close network. So these are people
that you would probably invite
to a big dinner party. It’s interesting.
I would put in this category
people I see every day. – So I fit in this one.
Is that what you’re saying?
– Yeah. – Yeah, you go here.
– Cool, cool, cool, cool. And in the last level,
coming back to 150, it’s sort of the max number
of meaningful relationships
that you have. – These are my casual friends.
– Mm. For most of human history, you would’ve lived
with these people for almost your entire life. If I didn’t live
with my boyfriend – or if this person
lived out of town…
– Mm-hmm. I would not in my daily life
see any of the people
that I was closest to. Yeah, which is crazy. – Which is crazy.
– It’s important to note that you can feel lonely
at any one of these levels. And the fact that we’re not
interacting with a lot of these people
face-to-face every day does have an actual impact
on those relationships. Dunbar said
that emotional proximity
decreases by 15% every year that you don’t see someone
face-to-face. Which means that
it just takes a few years for someone who might’ve been
in your top five, say, in college,
to go all the way to sort of the outer limits
of your 150 people. I’m gonna leave this shoot
and just book a flight – to see my best friend.
– Exactly. So, if these
all represent different
flavors of loneliness, how do people deal
with each of them today? That’s what
we want to figure out. We’re here in Branford,
Connecticut talking to a group
of people called Romeos.That stands for
Retired Old Men Eating Out.
There’s a really strong appeal
to groups like this.
Research shows older men
are more at risk
of social isolation
when compared to older women.
A lot of these guys miss
the connections that they had
either growing up or in school
or in their working life.
And they want to find a wayto maintain those kinds of
friendships in retirement.
When I retired,
I tried to get in a few things, but nothing seemed to click. Most of the wives
have book clubs, – bridge clubs…
– Yes. Yes. – …and garden clubs.
– Garden clubs. And this group
was just perfect. We just get together
and we shoot the breeze, and it’s a bunch
of very nice people. Are there moments
for all of you that stand out that kind of brought you here? Sometimes,
it’s a relative will say, “I’m concerned about
so and so being lonely.” We get those kinds of contacts all the time through
our website. I became involved
with the Romeo group through my granddaughter who did research
and contacted Frank. Because of my loneliness, she convinced me
to join the group, and I’m glad I did. And you weren’t sure at first. – You came very reluctantly
to the first group.
– Exactly. Loneliness may be a greater fear
than death. During the day,
even if you’re a widowed guy, you’ll find things to do. But when you’re
home at night all by yourself and you close that door, no matter how much family
you have, there’s some point in time
when you are all by yourself, and you won’t know
that sense of loneliness
till you’re there. It’s just– there’s a void. There’s a part of you
that’s been taken from you and there’s no way
to replace it. So, you know, a place like this
takes the edge off of it. – This is kind of
a depressing conversation.
– Yes. But normally when
we get together,
we have a bunch of yuks.( music playing )Oh, my God.
Thank you. What? – What are you doing?
– I feel like I can’t. – This is cheating.
– Oh, how nice. Speaking,
I guess to me, as a– Young whippersnapper? – Young whippersnapper.
– Okay, go ahead. Are there things
that stand out as advice to how to build strong
social connections that last
throughout your life? I think it’s recognizing that
that’s not the reality. – Each change over time
is a transition.
– It’s fluid. Each transition is a potential
for loneliness or a void or whatever
you wanna label it as. So I think it’s recognizing
that’s gonna happen and it’s in you
to make the difference.( music playing )– Christophe:
Do you feel lonely?
– I’m doing good recently, but sometimes I feel
a loneliness so intense that my rib cage hurts
and it just feels like I don’t even want to get up
in the morning or move. As bad as it is,
I don’t think you’re alone – in this by any means.
– Yeah. It’s something that
we’ll all encounter
at some point. – It can affect anybody.
– Yeah. So we all feel
lonely sometimes, but where did
this feeling come from? There’s this evolutionary theory from neuroscientist
John Cacioppo who says that loneliness
actually played an important role in
the survival of our species. And Joss is gonna
help us out with that. – Hey, Alex. Good.
– How’s it going? We’re gonna take you on a trip
through prehistoric times to show you how
we used to have to survive. So, homo sapiens didn’t
survive because we were fast or strong or equipped
with natural weapons. What they did have
is the ability to cooperate and communicate
with others in their group. Hey, guys.
Let’s cooperate. So, those protective
social bonds help to guarantee us safety, shelter, food, and the ability to procreate. – Aww, a baby.
– Yeah, a baby. What’s up? The pain of loneliness
acted like a stimulus. It alerted us when
our social bonds were at risk and we were potentially
going to be isolated. Guys, where are you? So that feeling actually
triggers physical responses just like other needs
in your body. So, like, when you’re being
swiped left on, it’s just like…
( grunts ) That’s loneliness
hitting you in the face. So it was advantageous
to feel uncomfortable when your social bonds
were at risk because people who felt that
were more likely to survive. Right? If you’re
super comfortable alone, you’re probably in danger. Yeah. Your body,
and more specifically, your brain are trying
to keep you alive. So if you’ll turn to the side,
I’ll show you how that works. We now know that the pain
of social rejection activates the same part
of your brain as physical pain. Loneliness
is a motivational force
coded in our DNA. Just like the pain
of hunger tells us to eat, loneliness tells us to seek
the safety of companionship. Huh. When you start to feel
the stress of loneliness, What? Your body releases
stress hormones like cortisol, which make us more alert, and epinephrine,
which constricts
your blood vessels and increases blood pressure. Your heart beats faster to send
blood throughout the body. This is what’s called
the flight or fight response. – You may have heard of it.
– Mm-hmm. It’s triggered
by the sympathetic
nervous system and it’s an immediate reaction. It’s like your body
reminding you – that you need your people.
– Yeah, exactly. All of these
physiological reactions
like hyper-vigilance and restless sleep
could drive you to reconnect with your group. But the problem is
while these reactions haven’t changed all that much
since early human history, their context actually has. – Make sense?
– It does. It’s not like
you’re gonna run out of food because no one’s
texting you back. – Right.
– However, this does
have tremendous health effects
on your body. What we found was being more
socially connected, was associated
with a 50% reduced risk for premature mortality. The effect of lacking
social connection carried a similar risk to smoking up to
15 cigarettes per day. Loneliness and depression
are not the same thing, but being lonely
can put you at increased risk
for depression. Alex:When you feel lonely,
it also affects you socially
in ways that prevent you
from going out more. So people who are lonely
are actually more sensitive
to social cues. Those who are chronically lonely
also tend to interpret neutral kinds
of social situations as more threatening. Wow. So your brain
is scrambled, and then as you’re
trying to reach out, you’re maybe
reading things wrong.( phone rings )Alex: I’ve been online,
I’ve been offline searching to try to make friends. Operator:
Your call has been forwarded
to an automated
voice messaging system.
So, Chase was supposed to
be here 15 minutes ago. Oh, he’s calling. Hello? All right. I thought he ghosted me, but he just–
he just has train issues. – There he is.
– Oh, hi. – Hello, everyone.
– So glad you made it. Thank you so much.
I’m happy I made it, too. Woman: So, we’re gonna start off
doing a small gradation. So it goes from dark to light. How do you twist your hair? Actually, I use a sponge. I’m kinda losing
some hair up in here. Like, it’s getting
kind of thin up in here. – Black castor oil.
– Yeah, they also say
it’s good for beards. – See, my beard grows in
kind of patchy, so I was–
– Mine, too, yeah. Like, how many close
emotional friends do you have? – Four.
– Four. And out of the four,
three of them is family. – Do you ever feel lonely?
– At times. It’s crazy because the way
that the world has played it is that black men can’t be
openly to one another. Like, a female can say,
“Girl, you look great. You got a nice body,
nice shape.” Guys can’t say,
“Yo, homey, I think that haircut looks nice on you.
You’re a handsome guy.” I haven’t talked to
another black guy about hair – in a while.
– See? Like, I find trouble
making friends who have similar
interests to me, but also who are,
you know, the same as me. So this recent report came out
from this group called AEI. And they found that
54% of black Americans are lonely every now and then
compared to 36% of whites. And they say that’s because
we all have our own communities and friend groups,
and we have unique
social needs. – Mm-hmm.
– So, when you’re
not interacting with people who are
from these groups, whether it’s racial,
religious, otherwise, – that can lead to loneliness.
– Yes. Um, I’m about ready to show you.
How are you doing over there? Uh, you just promise me
you won’t laugh. I won’t laugh, no. All right, one, two, three. All right. Yours looks phenomenal. Mine looks like
a kindergartener did it. I like your clouds
a lot more than mine. Look at the bird.
Like, that’s the Lone Ranger. – Where’s his friends?
– Just one bird. He’s lonely. I guess he is. We’re gonna fix
his little wing. – So then they flying together.
– All right. We are going to talk to Delilah. If you have listened to
late night radio in the U.S., you probably are familiar
with her voice. Delilah:Welcome to
the “Delilah Show.”
How are you tonight?Is there someone special
on your heart?
So, you’re 21 years old
and you’ve never been
in a intimate,
loving relationship.I’m Delilah,
and I do the “Delilah Show,”
which is a nationally
syndicated radio show
heard in about 200 countries
around the world.
I’ve been doing this
a long time. How would you describe
what is special about the format of radio
that lets you have
conversations like these? So, when people are
at home listening to me or driving in the car
listening to me, I’m just this sort of voice
in the night. So I can be whatever
they imagine me to do. And it allows me
to connect with people in a way that I don’t think
I could in any other medium. Do you feel like
the kinds of conversations that you with people
on the radio have changed? People today, they don’t have
that inner circle. The one thing
that I have noticed the last 10 or 15 years
that has changed is the level of desperation
I hear in people’s voices. So I’m listening
for what they’re not saying as much as I’m listening
for what they are saying. And I believe people
are not saying, “I hurt.” What do you tell
someone who’s struggling
with loneliness? My first question is
who can you turn to? And if they say,
“I don’t have anybody,” I’m, like, okay,
therein lies the problem. When you feel lonely,
you become more isolated. When you become more isolated,
you start cutting yourself off. And after a while,
loneliness begets loneliness. I tell them they need
to form a real relationship with somebody who needs them. Just step outside
of your comfort zone and pretend you’re Delilah
and ask a few questions. Alex:
So why are we so lonely?
At the most basic level,it’s our body’s way
of telling us we need to reach out
and connect with other people. That was true
of our prehistoric ancestors and it’s still true
for us today. I told one
of my close male friends
that I loved them. It was, like, the end
of our phone conversation. I was like,
“Hey, I love you” And he was kind of, like,
very taken back by it, but he was like,
“I love you, too. I don’t know why
I’ve never said thatthat to another male friend.”Christophe:But the time
that we’re living in
also presents us
with more opportunities
to chose our own tribes. Delilah:We need to feel like
we’re a part of something.
A part of a family,
a part of a village.
Something bigger than ourselves. So you pick the people
that you really wanna be with and you’ll never be lonely. – That’s what–
– I like that. But if you are ever
feeling overwhelmed by this, and I know I have, it happens, there’s actually links
in the description that you can check out
for help. – Hey, how’s it going?
– Good.Christophe:
The thing to remember is that
of all different kinds
of emotional pain
that you can go through,
loneliness is the one kind that
you can’t solve by yourself.
We need other people,
and other people need us.
Thanks so much
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  1. Big thanks to everyone in this episode who opened up to us about loneliness. It’s a feeling that can take many forms, and it isn't always an easy thing to talk about.

    If you’ve dealt with loneliness before, what’s helped you the most? We want to hear in the comments.

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    -christophe & alex

  2. people only care about themselves. it’s sad because they might not intentionally know they’re doing it, i knew someone who pushed everyone away and started keeping to themselves because they felt lonely even with many people around them…it hurts more socialising with people when you feel that lonely.

  3. I don't know why but it's been a week where i suddenly feel being alienated by my peer group and somehow i find myself feeling suffocated even though they didn't do anything to me😞. I wonder why? Also this sudden gush of extreme desolation and loneliness had made me feel unrest and stressed out.

  4. We needed reached out before because we needed mutual cooperation to survive. We needed yo enjoy each others company to hunt better, to want to look out for each other to keep safe from predators, to love enough to not mind sharing the hunt or harvest with others. But now, in the age of relative abundance, there is no longer a motivation to reach out. There are no more predators lookout for. No need to connect for mutual benefit, but the instinct is still there and by not addressing it we feel lonely. We live in a world where we don't need anybody to survive yet we have the neurology that needs it to survive

  5. MY GOD.💛 BELOVED.🌹.
    I LOVE.🌹 IT.
    THANKS! GOD.💛.
    Mar in alva.💖 Luz.💛 and Love.🌹

  6. How does loneliness affect someone's health? I live alone and have only couple of friends who I see maybe once a month and by friends I mean people, I've known for decades and who are like family, yet I don't feel lonely more than maybe couple of times, yearly. I'd really like to know, how is that going to affect my well-being? 😂

    I actually have a solution to you people, who are actually lonely. Talk to people. I've found amazing people (some of them are actually my previously mentioned friends), just by talking to complete strangers. I mean.. What do you got to lose?

  7. i don't understand how evolutionary psychology is taken seriously as a science. it's a bunch of convenient and largely unfalsifiable ad hoc hypotheses that conveniently can explain anything you want any way you want to explain it.

  8. I wonder what camera and set of lenses they use for this… it has such a nice, focus, bokeh and chromatic behavior… does anyone knows? It sorta looks like they use some anamorphic, but I can't tell

  9. I dont have the first 5 and I certainly dont even have the close network of 50. Probably too old to make friends now.. Hard to find decent trustworthy honest friends.

  10. Imo few people are willing to fundamentally question everything about modern society. Truth is, neither our brains or our bodies were designed to be so independent, live so out of touch with nature, be so sheltered. Civilization has led to urbanization, and cities are built with minimal human welfare in mind, the full package of human needs both being flimsily understood and dwarfed by other concern$.

  11. Sometimes something triggers me feeling lonely, even if I have good friends and family. I cry for an hour and then pull myself together

  12. There is a loneliness epidemic in the UK. Most people in the UK are so selfish and would not put themselves out for ya. The expression is "wouldn't pi$$ on you if you were on fire". I can make friends easily but here in the UK, people don't make the effort to reach back so I gave up. I had loads of friends in Italt but in the UK – nope.

  13. i feel like something to make clear is that being alone and being lonely are 2 different things.
    Yes being alone can make you feel lonely but it does not mean all people who are alone are lonely. As well as this you can have people in your life, people who are close to you, therefore you are not alone, and still feel lonely. I think that the fact that there are people who are alone, but don't feel lonely is a indicator of having social connection or not is not any indication of feeling lonely. I think if you are not alone and you feel lonely you should try and not surround yourself with people who make you feel lonely as much and if you are alone and feel lonely then I would say, it is hard to do but to some extent you need to be comfortable in being on your own and as well as this in the video they say that in the pain of social rejection activates the physical pain region but it is also the case of when you feel a certain pain, if you feel it for a long enough duration it does not cause you pain anymore.

  14. 10 to 15 close friends that you talk to regularly is a lot, even if you're in school. These guys must be really extroverted.
    But what do I know? I have less than 5 close friends, and none of them lives in the same city as me.

  15. Europeans are watching this right now and probably laughing at how weird americans are for making a friendship app hahaha It's called growing up with family values and tradition. Everything about western society has a materialistic end goal. They should try learning from indigenous communities.

  16. I don’t really agree with this, I think there needs to be more nuance.
    I think this would be very different for introverts and extroverts.
    I think the lonliness that you all are talking about is really a selfish need to feel “accepted” and I think that it doesn’t require you to get that acceptance but instead to realize that societal acceptance is shallow.

  17. I don't feel lonliness like I use to. Once I found God I don't feel it often. I prefer to be alone but I also feel set apart from others and it keeps me from wanting to build bonds with people. I also feel as though I don't get along with some people too. I love people and I show them love but I'm a loner. I constantly miss the love of my life but I know he watches over me and we will be together again one day. Life is just hard sometimes but I endure.

  18. This is the lack of family and unity in America…Even in Puerto Rico when they completely broke with nothing they understand the family values!

  19. I want to hug Alex and Chase they're sweet and amazing and I love them doing a painting class🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰😭 I can't deal with how much I want to be they're best friend I want to come with 💕💕💕💕💕

  20. I cant agree more with that man at 20:23, choose a circle you love and your life will feel much more complete, i have small groups of people from different topics in life I love like my whatsapp kpop group, my Flight Rising friends, Apex and Dead by daylight friends, they all contribute to my happiness

  21. Loneliness is ok to some extent when you are involved in some work and avoid company but once you think you want to share something and lack that scope , it seems disgusting

  22. Loneliness, terrible after my husband passed. My brother passed. And my sister & I don't share interests. I went online to look for persons to talk to about things I like. Found persons who enjoyed collecting dolls. Thru the website of doll collectors I met woman who lived in my same state & town. We chatted, became friends. Three times we have been able to meet up, chat, share interests. She has married & had a daughter. I was happy to become an "Aunt" to her daughter. I know we will be friends for our lives.

  23. This video made me feel much better emotionally. I'm usually very insecure about what I say or do even with my close friends, and I thought i should stop trying because of how awkward I saw myself, but you guys really reassured me and kinda boosted my longing for social connection. Thank you so much for this video!

  24. When I was born again I was so happy my anxiety and loneliness was gone! But it crept back in, I thought getting married would help and it did for the most part. But even in marriage the loneliness can sting even more. I'm now convinced that only the Lords return and the ressurection will complete the void and fill our hearts with exceeding joy and completeness. Come Lord Jesus. Haters can hate.. I know it's the truth

  25. "The mind is sharper and keener in seclusion and uninterrupted solitude.
    Be alone – that is the secret of invention: be alone, that is when ideas are born. "
    – Nikola Tesla

  26. It's selfish loneliness as in only wanting to be friends with certain types of people, but strangers with everyone else who have little to offer us and will end up a draining burden on our energy reserves.

  27. Thanks for doing this, i'm a widow and this gives me strength, i battle a lot with this feeling but now i will go and try to do what is best for me:)

  28. A very strange and off-putting video. Everyone featured here has friends, and there is even the assumption that everyone has 5 close people and 150 overall people in their lives. Perhaps I would still be lonely if I had those people in my life, but it seems fairly easy to overcome loneliness if you already have friends. If I knew how to make friends I would. So the advice given is utterly meaningless. It's a bit like saying that if you are suffering from malnutrition because you don't have access to food you should eat more food.

  29. I feel lucky to be live in my country, in countries like Greece, Italy, Turkey feeling lonely is harder because people are so lively, nobody is afraid of meeting new people, I have many close friends that I met in bus, tram, shopping mall, Cafe… we don't afraid of showing our affection so I can't even imagine how hard to find friends in Nordic countries, they don't even sit next to each other in tram or bus, or they can't talk without beer.

  30. I think increased loneliness is linked to people moving away from their families. Like, the whole moving out at 18 deal is so unnatural and damaging. You're supposed to stay with close family as long as possible

  31. I read a study today that said most people avoid lonely people – because they're lonely. They fear lonely people will be clingy. So, that's not helpful to lonely people, is it.

  32. Glad I've always been a loner and that it's never bothered me. That said, I'm glad the internet exists, it allows me communicate to people some.

  33. YOU should not feel LONELY! We are in this Climate Change together! Believe me! There are so many things that need to be done!!

  34. 17:34 Did you just see what he did?
    He saw the other guy draw only one bird and went, "Where's his friends? He's lonely!"
    What a lovely guy, he's got so beautiful heart… and it makes me sad to know that he, too, feels lonely "at times," as he describes it.

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